I like what you said about him taking his own time, and not having your own safety and well being at risk. Self care in situations such as these is crucial. I recently learned of a concept called 2/3's empathy, where a helper should never 100% empathize with people's suffering lest they find themselves there as well. In this way you won't be able to help. I kind of compare it to the trying to rescue a drowning man scenario.

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