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#307295 - 10/20/09 12:02 PM I Want To Be A Teen Again!
Clockwise Offline


Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Pennsylvania
I just celebrated my 20th birthday this past friday. Although, I really shouldn't say "celebrated" seeing as how I did absolutely nothing all day except stay home and watch tv. I did have a cake though so that was nice. My mom asked my how it feels to be 20 and I just came out and told her that I wish I could be a teenager again. Not that I hate being an adult (I love the freedom) but I just feel that I've missed out on so much stuff as a teen. I've never been to a sleepover or a house party or really done any of the stuff that most young people do. I have nobody. I don't know how to communicate with people and I soooooooo want to. Everytime I see someone who I'd like to talk to something in my braing yells out "Does not compute! Does not compute!" and I just freeze. I believe I can hold a conversation but I just can't start one because I'm afraid and because have nothing to talk about. God, I want to be a teen again and just have another chance.

Terrick

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#307300 - 10/20/09 12:52 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Clockwise]
boylikeme Offline


Registered: 08/10/09
Posts: 546
Loc: hell

happy belated bday... sorry i missed it

just thought id remind u that being a teen isnt as great as grown ups seem to think..

oh.. n if u think u missed out on stuff.. it is not too late.. go out n do it! i bet ure still allowed to blame youth..hehe

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#307303 - 10/20/09 01:12 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: boylikeme]
Charlie24 Offline


Registered: 09/28/08
Posts: 562
I would also like to wish you a Happy Belated Birthday Terrick.

I can honestly say I no longer desire to be a teenager. Those were my hell years cause it was such a horrible time for me. My abuse, kids in that age group are so insecure and just project so much hostility to each other. It seems to just get worse and worse with all the new technology today and the things I hear kids are doing to each other. Horrible IMHO.

No thanks, don't wanna go back.

In regards to never going to a party, besides the one's that were thrown by my parents I was invited to one party in my teen years, one party. It wasn't that great.

As my Dad says, and I think this is great advice, the best way to get invited to a party is throw one yourself. I don't know how feasible that is for you at this point your life, but it will guarantee an invitation with your name on it.

I will echo boylikeme and add that you can't change the past, its over and done with in your life.

You can change the present, the here and now.

I'm learning more and more to just get out and try to live my life, small baby steps.

Charlie.


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#307306 - 10/20/09 01:47 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Charlie24]
Daniel_forgotten Offline


Registered: 02/07/09
Posts: 479
happy late bday too. i second blk and charlie here dont make it sound like u turned 40! still plenty of time to fool around


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#307311 - 10/20/09 02:22 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Daniel_forgotten]
Trucker51 Offline
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Registered: 05/20/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
Terrick:

Why don't you try Meetup.com? I don't know about where you live, but here where I live Meetup has over 500 local groups within 15 miles that get together for various social events. Are you still attending college? Are there any social groups that you could try to join there?

Happy Birthday, just 48 years to go until Social Security!!!

Mark

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#307313 - 10/20/09 02:33 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Clockwise]
pufferfish Offline
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Originally Posted By: Clockwise
I just celebrated my 20th birthday this past friday.

Happy belated birthday!! laugh smile laugh smile
Originally Posted By: Clockwise

I don't know how to communicate with people and I soooooooo want to. Everytime I see someone who I'd like to talk to something in my braing yells out "Does not compute! Does not compute!" and I just freeze. I believe I can hold a conversation but I just can't start one because I'm afraid and because have nothing to talk about. God,

My wife helped me so much in learning how to communicate. Also when I was about 24 I started having a few friends who helped me. Now my T's and MS are helping me with communications. It is so much fun to get over things that had me "chained" in the past.
Originally Posted By: Clockwise

I want to be a teen again and just have another chance.

I understand what your saying. You want to do it over again and do it right this time. For me, I never, never would want to be a teen again. It was a bad time.

Allen

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#307314 - 10/20/09 02:43 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: pufferfish]
michael banks Offline


Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
Allen,

I so agree with you. Unles i could start entierly from scratch. Get to pick my own family. yea right!!!!!

mike

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#307331 - 10/20/09 05:01 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: michael banks]
petercorbett Offline
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Loc: TEXAS
FIRST, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY.

I'll go along with Allen & Mike.

No thanks about going back. I don't miss any thing about those early years.

HEY! Daniel_forgotten what's wrong with turning 40????
I'll take those years. ha ha. (humor).

" I will take that lost boys hand, and i will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity".


Heal well my YOUNGER brothers, heal well.
Big Pete... (Irishmoose).

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#307358 - 10/20/09 08:39 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: petercorbett]
Daniel_forgotten Offline


Registered: 02/07/09
Posts: 479
Originally Posted By: petercorbett
FIRST, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY.

HEY! Daniel_forgotten what's wrong with turning 40????
I'll take those years. ha ha. (humor).



XD nuttin actually 40 is perfect!


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#307368 - 10/20/09 09:51 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Daniel_forgotten]
Riley Offline
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Registered: 01/11/09
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Originally Posted By: boylikeme
it is not too late.. go out n do it! i bet ure still allowed to blame youth..hehe


That line really stood out for me. I know its waaaay easier said then done, but I think it's the best advice. I'm not much older at 22 and I still use "youth" as a scape goat when I do stupid stuff.


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#307376 - 10/20/09 10:15 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Riley]
pufferfish Offline
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Loc: USA
An alternative:

I apologize: I earlier wrote a flippant answer here.

We can't go back. But if we continue in counseling and working on our problems, we can be happier people. Teens really aren't too happy anyway. Teens may really be the most unhappy years. What we mean by wanting to be a teen is we want to roll back the cares of life and be as carefree as we think teens are.

Allen

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Edited by pufferfish (10/21/09 12:41 AM)
Edit Reason: rewrote a flippant answer

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#307384 - 10/20/09 10:35 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: pufferfish]
Daniel_forgotten Offline


Registered: 02/07/09
Posts: 479
deleted. sorry.



Edited by Daniel_forgotten (10/21/09 12:16 AM)

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#307401 - 10/20/09 11:50 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Daniel_forgotten]
onlyakid Offline
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Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1552
Loc: New Jersey
Terrick,
We did miss out on alot of things, I don't think anyone would disagree with that. It is sad that we were unable to live our childhood in the way we were meant to. I actually am jealous of teens when I see them when I'm out in public. However, sometimes I also realize that the same things that made me vuenerable to the abuse would also be the same things that would make me vuenerable to hanging out with the wrong people, doing drugs, drinking. So in some respects it may have been a good thing I isolated myself.

Hope your doing well and Happy Birthday

Jason

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#307417 - 10/21/09 03:24 AM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Clockwise]
jls Offline


Registered: 03/06/09
Posts: 1142
I'd rather be 100. At least people would expect less of me.

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#307514 - 10/21/09 07:17 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: jls]
Clockwise Offline


Registered: 03/03/09
Posts: 302
Loc: Pennsylvania
Thanks everyone for the responses. I know there is still plenty of time to live my life but it seems that the older I get the more awkward I feel around people. I feel like I've missed out on so many of those little seemingly insignificant teegage-year things. Like, staying out too late, having girls (or guys, lol) call my house, and just being a normal teen.

It's funny sometimes when I thing about it; I enjoy diversity and individuality so much but what I want to be more than anything is another stereotypical copy of an American teenager.

But like you guys said, there's still time. It's not like I'm 40 or anything, lol

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#307516 - 10/21/09 07:48 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Clockwise]
king tut Offline
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Registered: 02/13/08
Posts: 2466
Loc: UK
Just because you are 20 it doesn't mean you are beyond the "teen" stage automatically. The rigid marker of what a teen is is misguided in many ways. People have different responsibilities and different freedoms at different ages. I know people who are 21 and still very much "teens". I know people that are 16 and are more mature than many adults.

I have lots of responsibilities and i can be mature in things that i do. But that doesn't mean i can't do things that i would have done when i was that little bit younger. Just take all the good things that you want in your life and work through the rest.

Lots of the time i find myself doing things that i am sure i would have done in my teens, i don't see much difference- although i do understand the feeling of loss that you describe. The good thing is that we can regain many of these things and empower ourselves (sure- some things can never be taken back- but regained in other ways).

Originally Posted By: Clockwise
I feel like I've missed out on so many of those little seemingly insignificant teegage-year things. Like, staying out too late, having girls (or guys, lol) call my house, and just being a normal teen.


You can still do many of the things that you missed as a teen. Being older you have even more opportunity.

I like the fact that life isn't rigid. People don't have to be compartmentalised. Things are not black and white. You may have a teacher in school who is a real hard-ass and strict, but in the night he may be out there doing monkey impressions on a table in a pub- lol.

What i mean to say is just because you have these changes and maybe increases in responsibilities don't deny yourself opportunities or tell yourself that you can't or shouldn't do certain (un-damaging) things, just because it doesn't follow the main stream stereotypical way of thinking. Just be yourself and follow your heart.

I still have a teddy bear for example- and i am 21! and i don't care what people think about that.

Lewis

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I love you, little lewis, and i will never leave you. We are the same. You brighten my day, and i will make sure that i brighten yours. Hugs and kisses.


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#307527 - 10/21/09 08:56 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: king tut]
Alidade Offline
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Registered: 01/17/09
Posts: 56
Loc: Houston, Texas
It may comfort you to know when you hit 30 you will regret things you didn't do in your 20s. Same when you hit 40, except that you start looking closer at where you are in life. That's when a lot of people have the proverbial mid-life crisis.

There's no getting around regret. It will always be there. You just can't waste time dwelling on something you cannot change. As Henry David Thoreau so eloquently said:

"You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment."

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I want to tear down the walls
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#307542 - 10/21/09 11:02 PM Re: I Want To Be A Teen Again! [Re: Alidade]
ericc Offline
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Registered: 01/04/08
Posts: 1962
Terrick,

Happy late birthday, and thanks for the thread; I certainly needed it! I'm 37 and often feel regrets over what has or has not been. I think a lot of this regret it pretty normal, as Alidade has stated. And I think he is also right in that you can't waste time dwelling on the past. Truth is, no matter how good the past may have been all we have is now. Not that it is easy to live in the present all the time (and certainly I think it is good to reflect on the past, just not get stuck in it.) You have lots of life to live ahead of you, and about starting conversations, we are our own worst enemies. Truth is most people are just as insecure and really like to talk as well. Give it a try sometime, start a conversation you want to start and see how it goes. And then try it again. It can get easier. Not saying sometimes people don't want to talk, because surely that is the case sometimes but not always. Again, Happy Birthday!

Eric


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