This is a very passionate topic for me.
For so long, I had the belief that I was going to be an abuser, no matter what. It was just destiny. In fact, it was reinforced by the ignorance of the media, and still is so much a part of society, and also all the group homes and hospitals had this idea I would just carry on into adulthood. I really think that is degrading and selling someone short. Giving a human being who deserves love, respect and a good perception on the future and what it has to offer, absolutely no chance because you have told him how it's going to be, and especially as a child, you will probably believe it.
This is one of the things I am really passionate about, and wish to devote my time and life work to, educating the public about the reality of abuse, in particular sexual abuse of boys and men, and how it affects them, and that it doesn't mean they turn into abusers themselves, and ways we can help them.
Lets keep this discussion going.
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. -Helen Keller