Just saying that all people here deserve the same consideration, respect and understanding. Not referring to predators by any means. I am trying with this thread to see what is perhaps behind statements and not take them personally. I would hope the same would be done for me.
I also do not think therapy or talking has anything to do with whether someone is gay or stays gay. That is like saying someone is not far enough in recovery if still gay. It helps to sort out whether a person is or not I believe. It helps them to discover that for themself. Sexual abuse screws up the mind. So therapy and talking to others helps get it out in the open for a person. The therapy can help a person decide if they are gay or just have SSA or simply conflicted from same sex abuse.
If you are not gay - you are not gay. Just like I am not straight. I cannot see myself that way. No way in hell.
I wish you well.