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#304862 - 10/01/09 01:04 PM . [Re: Mike1968]
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#304874 - 10/01/09 04:21 PM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: bardo213]
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Hi, Lynchmob.

First of all, I wanted to say I learned to NOT be triggered by anothers perceptions.

I was once married so I am bisexual by history and have two kids to prove it. On the Kinsey scale, I am a 5.5 on the gay end of the spectrum.

I have lived with the "other thinking" I think you are referring to.

It sounds like your dealing with a lot of messages. Your not alone and I sympathize with you.

Peace,
DJ

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#304907 - 10/01/09 08:49 PM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: bardo213]
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Hope you get your computer security issue cleared up soon


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#305007 - 10/03/09 12:24 AM . [Re: Mike1968]
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#305009 - 10/03/09 12:44 AM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: bardo213]
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Loc: sorry, but I don't say on the ...
yeah, again don't be too ready to jump on that HOCD thing, just remember, it's a symptom or symptoms of what seems to be an already pre-existing anxiety disorder. To tell you the truth, I've made more progress having therapy for the abuse than I have for OCD type stuff. Tried going on lexapro and that was a miserable failure. Xanax did work well though, but because of it's extremely addictive capability I try to almost never take it.


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#305157 - 10/04/09 12:48 PM . [Re: AndyS87]
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#305337 - 10/05/09 11:56 PM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: InsideTheWall]
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As someone who is as supportive as can be of gays and lesbians I can have compassion for those who are homophobic since a phobia is just that, a fear, no different than a fear of hieghts for example. I don't view homophobia any differently and when I meet people with such a fear I do my best to help them come around to understanding that such a fear is irrational so that they can become more comfortable with themselves. However, that said there is a difference between fear and hate, and I've no time for be people who make hateful statements or engage in hateful acts. Just my thoughts. JS

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#305498 - 10/07/09 11:15 AM . [Re: jls]
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#305531 - 10/07/09 06:27 PM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: DJsport]
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Registered: 07/02/09
Posts: 359
Loc: Utah
Originally Posted By: DJsport
Hi, LilacLouie

I respect where you are coming from. If it a personal attack on you then it is wrong. I would do the exact same thing. To me it is about respect for the PERSON.

I was upset at the finger pointing about "gays" in general that I thought this post started out in rhetoric.

Now I understand more about the author and the notion it is about wording, so I will stay away from any further posts.

Again, I was upset at the wording for "all gays".

DJ

DJ, don't worry about it. Mistakes happen. I don't hate you in the least, even if you are gay.

My opinion is, "Be gay, if that's your way." So long as others understand it isn't mine. FORCE it on me, different story. Last guy that tried forcing it on me nearly lost his life.


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#305585 - 10/08/09 12:32 AM Re: Question out to those who are bi? [Re: bardo213]
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I am reluctant to label people so I am not calling you homophobic. However, I will say that we live in a society that does not understand or easily accept differences in sexual orientation I will venture to say that our world is homophobic and that affects us all. Even myself, as progressive as I try to be, with a family history that includes a lesbian mother I will acknowledge moments of homophobia on my part thruout my life. However, like I said in my post, when I find myself feeling this way I try and have compassion for myself and understand that it is an irrational fear and nothing more. You say that homophobia involves violence or bias. Bias in some cases maybe but I disagree that all homophobia is hateful. I have met many people who are homophobic who take a live and let live approach, as in they don't understand or feel comfortable around gay or lesbian people but still support their right to existence and happiness, nor do they make an effort to get in the way of this. JS.

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