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#30408 - 12/22/02 11:41 PM Substance over style
Just Call me J Offline
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Registered: 07/14/01
Posts: 204
Loc: Inland Empire, California
I've been gone for several months. I honestly don't remember the last time I posted in the forums here, before a couple days ago.

So when I came back this week, I was surprised at the changes. I was a little confused, but they seem like they are in the best interests of the participants here. I really valued the time I spent here before, and I found that there was a lot of compassion, a lot of good discussion, and a lot of healing for me.

So naturally, when the pain and uncertainty of my issues returned last week, I came back here. Naturally, I can't expect that all the faces I remember would still be here. Lloydy has taken on a great role, I notice, and I'm glad that he has done so. I found him very articulate and an all-around cool guy.

But with all the changes that have come, I find most of the talk is about HOW to post, how NOT to post, what are the new guidelines, etc.

Where is the support?? Look at the top 10 topics right now. It seems that the ones with the most responses are for matters of policy, not dealing with issues of support.

I have to admit that I'm feeling hurt, both because of my issues, and because I used to be an active part of this community. I spilled my guts out a couple nights ago. I'm sure it was a lot to take in. But a grand total of 2 people have responded to me, and that was only to say welcome (which I do appreciate Lloydy and Wuamei). Am I expecting too much? Possibly.

Please, let's not forget why this place is here. It's sad that active, articulate, caring individuals have stopped posting here because of matters of procedure.

I came back because I wanted to return to a community I could unload my deep thoughts, and know that I'm not alone. Right now, I'm feeling alone, when my words go out into the void, and I don't get so much as an echo.

In other words, I need you guys!!! Please help, please respond!

Jeremy
We're in this together.

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#30409 - 12/23/02 04:25 AM Re: Substance over style
Roy Offline
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Registered: 08/02/02
Posts: 184
Loc: Los Angeles
Jeremy,

Thanks for speaking up for yourself about what you need. I agree that helping each other here is what its all about. It seems that policies and procedures, though boring, need to be discussed, too. Given this is the internet, the means of communication are fairly awkward and public. And I can't believe I am starting to sound like an administrator, like my old boss! Aaargh!

You pointed out that your post is really loooong, so I promise to get to it when I'm not so tired that my eyes start to glaze over. Just want you to know that someone is paying attention and listening to you.


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#30410 - 12/24/02 12:14 PM Re: Substance over style
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Jeremy
what can I say ? \:o \:o :rolleyes:

But thanks for that, and it's good to see you back again.
I guess we'll all get back into recovery gear after the holidays again.

Have a good one
Dave

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#30411 - 12/24/02 09:16 PM Re: Substance over style
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Registered: 11/17/02
Posts: 450
Loc: Minnesota
Jeremy,
I'm new here but believe the site will be getting back on track. I think these political issues prolly go in cycles. As does the readership and those whom respond.
Hang in there brother,
-jer(emy)


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