i haven't logged on for a while, but i do value the work done here and the space and time to get stuff off my chest. I have some good news i think you might be interested in.
First, I and my sister were sexaully abused by our maternal uncle. I might be repeating myelf but february last, when i was home i told my mom and dad the terrible truth. they have reacted in all the right ways. They have expressed sadness, anger and guilt. They have supported us everyway they can. And that includes going and making a statement with the police.
I went to the police and made a statement too.
The case goes to trial on 26 septmber. I will have the opportunity to say " THAT'S THE MAN" and he will have nothing to hide behind. There will be no more secrets weighing down on me.
I went to the police in february 2004, and the case is only now coming to trial, so it's been a long wait, but this process, that I set in motion, has helped me. It has empowered me. I recommend it to everyone. It is far from perfect and is lacking biblical 'eye for an eye' blood letting but it is part of the process of healing. And it does ruin the perpetrator's life.
My last piece of good news is that on 8 May this year i got married to my lovely girlfriend kyong Lan in Daejon, South Korea. My parents coming all the way from the U.K for the ceremony.