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#301473 - 09/03/09 01:20 PM Therapeutic Sexual Assault
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Anyone else ever experience this ? Sexual molestation or rape committed by a trusted therapist, counselor, social worker, or mental health provider ?

I am shut out of mental health services because of it. These people are like attorneys unwilling to serve malpractice justice against one of their own out of fear of acknowledging impropriety and scrutiny of their profession, but largely the resultant scrutiny of their own personal practice it would bring.
Simply no one capable in the profession.

I've been 12 years searching for a single provider who is not only willing of professional conduct while providing professional services they are highly paid, trained, and licensed to provide, but also exhibit enough common sense to keep 'her' prejudice and bias out of the sessions.
Not easy to find for a 53 y/o male sexually molested by a female social worker when he was 17, in a female predominant industry.

I'm not new to MS, I first posted here over 10 years ago. and the 'Find a Therapist' service has been of no help.
I need help locating a provider. Anyone out there to advise ?

Tom S. in Tn.

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#301480 - 09/03/09 01:44 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
garr Offline


Registered: 07/29/09
Posts: 44
I went to a male therapist because I was molested by a woman. I think it makes a difference. I know they are harder to find, but apparently they are out there. Mine specializes in EMDR and healing through a holistic approach. He is a gentle and caring individual, which is something I thought I wouldn't get from a male therapist. I thought they were all the Freudian, all of your problems relate to your mother, now get over it sorts. You, know, the stereotypical therapist telling you that the toaster's not real even though you see it right there in the Quizno's commercial! He's not like that at all. He is everything I always thought I'd find in a female therapist but didn't (albeit I only ever saw one woman and never mentioned my CSA).

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#301515 - 09/03/09 06:47 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: garr]
Trucker51 Offline
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Registered: 05/20/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
Richard Gartner is in Columbus, OH and Mic Hunter is in St. Paul, MN. With enough advance purchase on their current sale, Nashville to Columbus roundtrip on Southwest Airlines can be had for about $150 including tax, and there is a non-stop in the morning from Nashville and a non-stop out of Columbus in the late afternoon. So you could fly up in the morning and see Dr. Gartner, then be home in time for supper, or maybe stay over and attend a group if there is one available there too.

Dr. Lee Blackwell in Huntington Beach, CA offers counseling over the phone too. http://www.drblackwell.net/index2.html Southwest flies to both Minneapolis/St. Paul and to John Wayne/Orange County too!!!

Mark

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#301596 - 09/04/09 08:51 AM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Trucker51]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5778
Loc: Lambertville, NJ USA
You may be confusing Richard Gartner with Howard Fradkin. Richard is in NYC and Howard is in Columbus. Both are excellent clinicians, and Mic is also one of the best.


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#301597 - 09/04/09 08:52 AM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Trucker51]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Thank you both for your help.

Trucker; can you give any personal experiences with any of these 3 ?
I have written Mr. Gartner a few years back, but figured the commute was too far not knowing if he was any more qualified than what's available locally.

The yellow pages and internet are full of them, but actually having a referral from someone who has seen them is different.

Thank you very kindly again; Tom S. in Tn.

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#301600 - 09/04/09 08:59 AM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Mr. Singer;
Your post jumped on there before I got mine in !
In your travels, have you had any interactions with any qualified male therapist within driving range of middle Tennessee?

I am dependent on insurance coverage and affording out of state commute could only happen a couple times.

The anger of being broke would only amplify any problems I might presently experience.

Thanks again; Tom S. in Tn.

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#301643 - 09/04/09 03:17 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
Trucker51 Offline
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Registered: 05/20/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
You are right Ken, one of these days I will get the names and places right. Thanks for pointing that out. I did see Mic Hunter in St. Paul in 1997-98 myself, as well as 2 different therapists who were good in Denver in 1996-97. My first therapist was a student therapist at the Cleveland State University Counseling Center in Cleveland, OH in 1986-87, and my first support group was through the downtown Cleveland YMCA, which was then on the corner of Prospect and East 22nd St.

I could ask my little sister about what she knows of in Nashville. She used to live there over by the airport and is now a women's issues therapist in Boulder, CO.

Mark

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#301673 - 09/04/09 06:06 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Trucker51]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
I would sincerely appreciate that because I've netted absolutely nothing.
Not much male support here, and if you say you were female perpetrated, your life is in your own hands.

I'll be watching for your reply; Tom S.

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#301677 - 09/04/09 06:24 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
alan55 Offline


Registered: 08/19/09
Posts: 202
Loc: Seattle, WA
You can't be the only person this has happened to. There has to be a qualified therapist around the Nashville area for you. Continue the search, it will be fruitful. As far as locating famale therapist (since that's who molested you in the first place) may not be a good idea. There are LMH (licensed mental health) workers and LCSW (licensed clinical social workers) who are educated in areas that may be of assistance to you. The individual my wife and I go to is LCSW but they are doing a great work in our lives. Keep up the search. Blessings on you efforts. Been there.


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#301680 - 09/04/09 06:26 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Let me add something Mark.

Anyone near this geographic region will immediately say phone the one and only rape crisis center because they have all the services and can cure anyone, which is untrue.
Those people are extremely male unfriendly.
The only male counselor is unlicensed and treats children. I'm not for certain even he is still there anymore since they moved and began having to bill for insurance.
The only ones there who actually posses any form of a license are social workers.

The secondary trauma and abuse from those people 10 years ago far and again exceeds anything I may have received as a kid.

Tom S.

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#301682 - 09/04/09 06:46 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
alan55;
When was the last time you tried in the middle Tennessee region ?
Market dictates that the vast majority of providers, of any caliber, are female and any male providers who might be around are female sympathizing.

I get people placing the blame and burden of proof on my shoulders all the time, but not a one of you live anywhere near here let alone have ever tried to find an individual who can stand the scrutiny, personal or professional, when you tell them you were publicly raped because of a damned female social worker. Not easy to find in ANY region of the US alan.

But you are correct on one count, I am not the only person unable to receive even basic mental health services due to gender.

I could copy the anti discrimination disclaimer sign, helping hands logo and all, posted at the only rape crisis center in the state which excluded gender from its lists of demographics.

Like to see it?

Tom S.

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#301689 - 09/04/09 07:28 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5778
Loc: Lambertville, NJ USA
Tom:
I do not know anyone in Nashville (or TN for that matter) who is experienced in treating male survivors of female sexual abuse. I will contact some colleagues to see if there is anyone in TN who may be of help to you and if I get any responses, I will pass them on. I wish you good luck in your efforts to heal.


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#302068 - 09/07/09 05:11 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Thanx Ken, I'll take this as a sincere reply with a sincere response; Thank you for consideration.

Tom S.

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#302086 - 09/07/09 08:24 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/24/00
Posts: 5778
Loc: Lambertville, NJ USA
From some colleagues on another forum:

"A competent LCSW in Nashville, TN

Harisson Taylor @ 615.329.9915"

I've got requests in with another couple of therapists in Memphis area and will let you know if I hear of any other info.
Ken


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#302191 - 09/08/09 05:25 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Sorry Ken, but I firmly believe any qualified practitioner should be willing to bill for insurance just like every other provider of mental health and medical services.

I refuse to be penalized by paying for medical coverage and a provider unwilling/unqualified to seek reimbursement.

And by the way...... the # above has been disconnected.

Thank you anyway; Tom S. in Tn.

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#302235 - 09/08/09 09:45 PM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: Tom S.]
River Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/23/07
Posts: 112
Loc: Nashville,Tennessee
Tom,

I am so sorry that happened to you. I have a therapist friend/ colleague in Brentwood who was sexually assaulted by his therapist. He is a good therapist who would definitely understand. I will be glad to pass along his information if you would like it.

Glynn

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#302303 - 09/09/09 08:32 AM Re: Therapeutic Sexual Assault [Re: River]
Tom S. Offline
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Registered: 04/15/03
Posts: 161
Loc: Nashville, Tn
Oh please, by all means post it here or send me a message. Ask your colleague if they already know or have heard of me. If they practice in this area, I'm sure they have because the female rape crisis/domestic violence folk hate me with passion.

I know I appear jaded and angry by the rest of the community, but the facts remain to speak for them self.
Either a provider can meet the minimum qualification and expectation or they can't. And I've had enough abuse from substandard providers trying to make a living by marketing an image or an illusion rather than being capable of providing the work.

Thank you kindly for any lead; Tom S.

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