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#300956 - 08/30/09 03:01 PM Re: ignored [Re: DJsport]
prisonerID Offline
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Registered: 02/17/08
Posts: 1247
Loc: Oklahoma
Painful experiences can help us grow and see why they hurt us in the first place. It is not a nice path but can be a growing and healing time for us. Our reactions to others and the feelings we have can help us learn about us. And do some healing on top of it.

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#300963 - 08/30/09 03:51 PM Re: ignored [Re: boylikeme]
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Registered: 08/10/09
Posts: 546
Loc: hell
rockin out to this song for 2 days kinda helped..hehe



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#300967 - 08/30/09 04:33 PM Re: ignored [Re: boylikeme]
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Registered: 08/16/09
Posts: 251
^^ awesome song^^


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#300995 - 08/30/09 10:23 PM Re: ignored [Re: DJsport]
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Michael,

The isolation is so damaging.

It is happening more and more here. OUCH!!!!

I cant do this.

DJ

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#301006 - 08/30/09 11:42 PM Re: ignored [Re: DJsport]
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an important thing to do when someone is ignoring you is to reach out to the friends that you do have - so much as survivors we place all the blame on things upon ourselves - but... sometimes people do things that make no sense to us and we hav'nt done anything to cause them to do what they've done - a very important part of recovery is learning that it's NOT always our fault...

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#301184 - 09/01/09 12:17 PM Re: ignored [Re: TJ jeff]
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Originally Posted By: TJ jeff
recovery is learning that it's NOT always our fault...


So, how do I determine if it was NOT my fault if I cant talk about it with those who are ignoring me?

I know of one that I happy to be ignored by but, the other is sad for me. Both, I would like to come to some kind of resolution.


Peace,
DJ





Edited by DJsport (09/02/09 05:09 PM)
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#301333 - 09/02/09 12:55 PM Re: ignored [Re: DJsport]
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Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
DJ,

Sometimes in relationships we have to just move on and accept that not all things can be resolved. Or do we have to accept responsiblity when these things happen. Not everybody is going to like you or you them.

Mike

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#301360 - 09/02/09 05:08 PM Re: ignored [Re: michael banks]
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Doesnt matter. But, I do care.

I get it just move on. Moving ON.



Edited by DJsport (09/02/09 05:11 PM)
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