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#297169 - 07/28/09 02:29 PM Re: jealousy [Re: bigjdaddymack]
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Registered: 02/20/08
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I am back into the game so to speak with wanting to be intimate and the jealousy or negative self talk is yelling sometimes.

Breathing and trying to stay relax

Urgh,
DJ

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#298303 - 08/06/09 10:32 PM Re: jealousy [Re: DJsport]
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Loc: Central Ohio
Yeah, that sucks so bad!

That is where you are going to be challenged with replacing those thoughts with positive ones. Remember, those thoughts were placed in your head by your abuser(s). They are lies. Learn the truth, tell your self the truth, then learn to believe the truth. It takes time, be patient with yourself.

Peace and love...

Michael


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#300020 - 08/20/09 02:21 PM Re: jealousy [Re: M3]
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I have had some "Aw UH moments" bout this issue.

As A kid:

I did not want to miss anything or be excluded.

My perp told me he would mess with others.

My perp told me I was his.

I am learning to run and play on my own without abandon and without question.

DJ

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#300065 - 08/20/09 10:53 PM Re: jealousy [Re: DJsport]
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smile


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#300786 - 08/28/09 01:20 PM Re: jealousy [Re: M3]
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Hi, Guys.

I had another flashback episode this last Monday for which some guys here helped me through.

The messages I heard during the csa for which I posted about I will repeat below STRUCK me big time on Monday. These messages are show stoppers that hurt and I am deflating the inpact on my life.

1. I did not want to miss anything or be excluded.

2. My perp told me he would mess with others.

3. My perp told me I was his.

Today, I can honestly say.

1. I am playing my own game/life. I am taking time for myself.

2. Others are adults who are free to make there own decision separate of my life. All are free to accept or reject others including myself.

and 3. I am my own person - free to play where I want and when I want.

Whew!!!

What a relief.

Peace,
DJ

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