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#299244 - 08/14/09 09:33 AM .
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#299274 - 08/14/09 12:21 PM Re: Anger related to sexuality [Re: bardo213]
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Hiya there fellow Wisconsinite smile

I've lived small town life for basicaly all of my life - born and raised in a small cowtown - and now live in an even smaller town minus the cows - lol - I know exactly what you mean about small town talk...

I really hope that your gf will be there for you - I know that when I told my wife (who was my gf when I told her) I kind of floored her and it took a few days for it to realy sink in with her - but... in the long run she's been understanding - I hope it's the same for your gf (I too remember that after telling my wife I felt she was disgusted - which I immediately "felt" that she was disgusted with me - but... in reality she was only disgusted with my uncle for the things he had done to me - she was in reality NOT disgusted with me at all - perhaps your gf's response is simular...)

if your neighbor hacked your pc somehow then by all means you should file a police report because that is a HUGE breach of your personal privacy

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The other part of this is that what do you guys think that anger is related to homosexuality.


I can only speak for myself and my own personal feelings on this question as I try to think back on things you've said in the past and put myself into your shoes...

you were abused by a male in a sexual way - the true "root" of the anger starts there - but... you've been teased by people you thought where friends - you've had people talking about you behind your back - the small town talk... ect... no one enjoys being teased - no one likes being talked about behind their back - anger is justified - but it does need to be controlled - uncontrolled anger can consume a persons life a wildfire consumes a prairie


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I highly doubt I would go through with this in another town or area.
I'm sure a lot of your anger is rooted in what i call "small town thinking" - it's sad that here in Wisconsin there is so little understanding about abuse - most small towns here raise their kids without ever even explaining to them that abuse is not their fault - that abuse does NOT make them gay - frankly... it makes ME mad that there is so little understanding of abuse in small town Wisconsin...

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#299308 - 08/14/09 03:58 PM . [Re: TJ jeff]
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#299316 - 08/14/09 04:20 PM Re: Anger related to sexuality [Re: bardo213]
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Hello.

I appreciate what your saying.

I am also thinking about being individuals and how that gets so intertwined sometimes.

Just my thoughts.

Peace,
DJ

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