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#292785 - 06/23/09 09:29 PM Things are not as they appear
onlyakid Offline

Registered: 03/31/04
Posts: 1556
Loc: New Jersey
I do this all the time, I'll look at someone who I think is having a good life and say "Damn, I'd give anything to be them". Well I just found out for St. Louis Cardinals player Khalil Greene things aren't exactly as they seem. The article only states that it was an anxiety disorder but TV reports reveal its Social Anxiety Disorder.

Khalil Greene thanks Cardinals for their support
By Derrick Goold

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Before the game at Citi Field, he described the role his teammates and others played in facilitating his return from the DL stint to address debilitating anxiety, a condition he felt contributed to a difficult ending with his former team.

"Given my experience in San Diego wasn't a great one, that left a bitter taste in my mouth," Greene said. "It felt like the trust factor had been shattered. On the micro-level aspect of it, that didn't involve the clubhouse, but I really felt soured by that. Here, obviously, they want me to contribute, but at the same time I felt a genuine sympathy for my well being. ... I wanted to respond to that."

"Being with people that understand you...Priceless"

"and i don't want the world to see me, cause i don't think that they'd understand"

"You don't know what love just do as your told"

"My life has changed. What you take as a simple thing, is not so simple for me anymore"

#292791 - 06/23/09 10:26 PM Re: Things are not as they appear [Re: onlyakid]
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16268

As a survivor I can relate to that feeling of wanting to be "them". We look at "them" and believe their life is happy, fun, loving, etc. In fact I think we imagine their lives to be the essence of what ours isn't.

You draw the point quite well that many times that perception is only in the survivor's mind; that "they" actually have problems too. In fact their problems may well be just as debilitating to them as ours seem to us.

Hard to keep that concept in mind, but it helps put things in perspective.

“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy ____…! What a ride!’” ~Hunter S. Thompson


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