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Sounds like you got drugged with some spiked rum or possibly someone slipped a "mickey" in your drink, and perhaps the exposure to the old man was the intended outcome. When you are age 50 or age 70 and you are a pedophile it really doesn't matter much if the victim is 16 or 19 or 21, as they seem all about the same to an older guy that age. Your experience here illustrates a good reason for young people to avoid heavy drug and alcohol abuse, especially around suspicious people. Yes, what happened to you was abuse. The way that I see it you were taken advantage of without your consent, even though you were a young adult at the time. Many young adults have been taken advantage of without their consent over time while under the influence of drugs and alcohol by those with ulterior motives, often by someone that they had previously trusted.

Hope that talking about what happened helps you feel a little bit less burdened. You have my support.

Mark

Sounds like you need to be more careful who you party with. If anyone I knew invited a known perv to a party it would be the last party of theirs I ever attended.

I tend to have drunk people touching me every time I go into a gay bar which is why I rarely go into them any more. It sucks when just as you start to feel like you are developing healthy boundaries to have someone violate them.

Sometimes you just have to be nasty to people to make them leave you alone. I would suggest making sure you have a ride home when you plan to party so that when you reach the point where you need to crash you can do it in a safe place.