My brother is a pass master at that sort of thing. he gets angry a lto of the time, wrants in private, but then releases his anger by tyin someone up in the most painful knots, working on their various problems and flaws, and eventually getting them to do what he wants.
What's particularly synister, is he manages to do this in a very quiet, polite tone, ----- he even has a short tongue when he's especially furious.
Sinse he's both a lawyer and an accomplished chess player though, it's not too surprising.
I just tend to use very obvious and pointed sarcasm like that mentioned above, ---- but then again I don't get angry often at all, which is probably lucky.