I still have a cocktail with a dinner out, maybe once or twice per week. And when I am up at the casino I will sip down a couple of their free drinks too. But I just don't drink anything like I used to pre-recovery 25 or more years ago either. In my late teens or early 20s it was rather normal to be stoned almost all of the time, and drinking a fifth of JD was a normal weekend habit for a time too, not to mention all of the beer every other night. I experimented with lots of other drugs too, but cocaine ended-up being my drug of choice. Unlike lots of coke addicts I didn't drink much alcohol when I was tweaked out of my gourd, and I quit smoking grass 18 years ago when there wasn't any to buy for a couple of months.
Quitting my ruinous cocaine addiction was very expensive and nearly impossible. I took 3 trips to inpatient rehab and three more to extended outpatient treatment too. I had to combine my CSA and other child abuse therapy with substance-abuse treatment and work on both at the same time. Experiencing some success in the abuse treatment encouraged some success on the substance abuse front. It was really touch and go for a long time, and there were plenty of pitfalls along the way. I had to rid myself of lots of my former friends who weren't being supportive to finally succeed too. It has been 6 months shy of 10 years since I took my last crack cocaine hit. To this day, I am not willing to try one more hit because of my fear of what would happen if I did.
But like I said, I do enjoy a cocktail with dinner, once in a great while two. Alcohol isn't the out-of-control problem that it was for me 25 or more years ago. I have learned to be much more responsible. I have learned what it is possible to enjoy and where to draw the line.
If you can honestly say that you are in complete control and know when to stop, for responsibility's sake, there shouldn't be any problem. I can't say that about crack cocaine. I can for an occasional cocktail with a dinner out.
There is an old saying in aviation, "any landing that you can walk away from is a good landing". The same thing is not true for over-consumption of alcohol. Just be very aware of the propensity for former alcoholics and addicts to quickly return to their previous level of abuse.
Maybe we can share dinner and a drink sometime. I'll be around through next weekend. Let me know.
Be safe, my man.
"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark