I think now you have yourself on the right track, your husband may not progress at the same pace and the issue is maybe? now top priority to iron out and get life going again, it's a journey that requires all the endurance and mettle you have, sometimes more. My cheers, tears and prayers go with you.
The Friends and Family Forum, and all of the forums are probably the largest realtime resource available on the subject of male sexual abuse. For Free. 24/7/365.
I'm sincerely sad you have this in your families lives, I see so many stories of the wives who hurt and are baffled just like the survivor as to what is going on and how did it get so big. We ask; how big is it? The conditions grew slowly and may take some time to understand in a healthy, adjusted manner.
People affected by the victims sexual trauma are known as Secondary Victims. You can help, support and guide your husband but I'm sure you know his solution is for him to find. Try to research info on 'Secondary Sexual Abuse Victims'. google those words.
Malesurvivor is a down to earth and a lot of the members use first names. Lifelong friendships and support. You'll find lots of info and support here, the men and women will see your username.
So.. hang on, utilize support, research info and peace, understanding and comfort will take place. Try to see your husband as a person who is not well yet, most ill people are not easy to live with and you need some immunity against becomming infected with his stuff.
I hope this helps, and seriously my former wife thought for 29 years it was her weight gain that affected our sex. I experienced flashbacks during arousal, it was so frustrating for both of us. When I told her about what happened 3 decades ago in July 2007 she said she wished I had told her, we probablly could have worked thru it together.
The rewards of triumph are located beyond the pitfalls of dispair
Doug>ASA Survivor (1x)
ECV 6001/MaTuCa Chapter 1849
E Clampus Vitus
"What Say the Brethren"
"Hang the Bastards"