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#285472 - 04/27/09 06:35 AM Question for Survivors & Partners: corporate speak
kolisha54 Offline
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Has anyone ever exeperienced (or done) this?

A partner says something in an affectionate, intimate (but far from inappropriate) manner & gets an affirmative, positive response that would be more appropriate in a board room or among business associates? What's this all about?????

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#285479 - 04/27/09 07:13 AM Re: Question for Survivors & Partners: corporate speak [Re: kolisha54]
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Thinking/Cognitive answer felt safer than Feelings/Emotions- esp cause you were affectionate, intimate. Ya know, the csa programming still there and telling him intimacy means danger. I've always perceived it as it's not us they don't trust, it's their own Trusting that they don't Trust- cause they feel (logically in the past) that their past Trusting was a self betrayal . You know this stuff i know but still , Yes, it feels crazy (and Lonely! ) when it happens..... Much Peace to you Kolisha, An


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#285491 - 04/27/09 09:33 AM Re: Question for Survivors & Partners: corporate speak [Re: An]
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Thanks, An!!! You are as perceptive as always! I guess The Trick is to be able to respond back in such a way that doesn't re-trigger whatever the trigger is but makes clear that the response was still appreciated.

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