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#278799 - 03/09/09 04:50 PM No Sexuality
kellygtx Offline
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Registered: 07/11/07
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Loc: Texas, USA
I have not been around in awhile feeling like I have a pretty good grip on everything and am doing pretty good - and I am - with everything except sex and sexuality. I know, that is like saying everything at the zoo is OK but the elephant is sick right?

Well, it just seems for about the last 12 months I have had no real sense of sexuality and no desire for sex. In fact I have not had an sort of sexual contact with my wife in now about 9 months. I don't masterbate or look at porn (that was never anything I liked to begin with) - NOTHING. In fact I shower with the lights off and really don't want to ever be without clothes on. I know some will say I have to get used to being sexual or accepting sex in a healthy way but I don't miss it at all - in fact I am pretty comfortable not having to worry about it. When I try to think about something sexual I get no where fast - if I keep trying I just really get nothing...I don't feel anything - there is nothing pleasurable---just nothing.

Is it normal to go through a phase like this?

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#278828 - 03/09/09 08:39 PM Re: No Sexuality [Re: kellygtx]
Ken Singer, LCSW Offline
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I suppose if you live by yourself and are comfortable with no sexual interests or responses, it would be fine. However, how does your wife feel about that?


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#280404 - 03/22/09 08:20 PM Re: No Sexuality [Re: Ken Singer, LCSW]
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Registered: 03/13/09
Posts: 457
i wish i had no sexual intrests...it's way over rated...more problems than its worth.



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#280412 - 03/22/09 09:43 PM Re: No Sexuality [Re: myboyhoodfears]
FormerTexan Offline
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Loc: Denver, CO
mbf, I totally agree.

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#280424 - 03/22/09 11:49 PM Re: No Sexuality [Re: FormerTexan]
TJ jeff Offline
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I dunno guys....

I mean... I know the feeling well of having no interest whatsoever in sex - I went over 10 years totaly celebit

but... the right woman came along - totaly opened me up - took me to places I did'nt even know I "wanted" to go sexualy untill after I went there...

I guess all I'm trying to say is... life can really change in a big hurry sometimes - the most important thing is to relax and just enjoy the journey

abuse makes it hard for us to just let go though - that's why we need good therapists to work out these issues from the past with

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#280449 - 03/23/09 07:31 AM Re: No Sexuality [Re: TJ jeff]
michael banks Offline


Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
Jeff,

Was that totally celbit? No masturbation or nothing for ten years?
If so, How did you manage that?
I have not masturbated in about ten days and my wife is looking better everyday.

Mike


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