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#279506 - 03/15/09 04:45 AM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: michael banks]
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#279533 - 03/15/09 12:46 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Survivinguy]
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I had a post and a response here explaining my post and my opinion that I wasn't overreacting. In the original post I didn't curse or use capitals or shout or anything "over" the top.

I pointed out some issues with the listed questions which Mike has indicated might in some way minimize the issue of sexual addiction. Mike pointed out to me in a PM that sexual addiction can be a very serious, challenging and intertwined issue for CSA survivors.

I agree with Mike and in retrospect - while I was concerned some teen members might struggle with the questions - the questions are no less important.

So after considering Mike's well put private message - I have elected to remove both my original post and my original response.

Thanks Mike - your kind words and gentle manner in your PM in helping me reconsider this issue are much appreciated.

My edited posts probably aren't accurate without indicating what I said in both original posts - I answered yes to more than a few of the questions and am consciously aware of the possibility that if I don't actively address certain habits or activities - it could develop into a very harmful addiction. As I noted to Mike in the PM - I also would never have encountered this questionnaire if Mike hadn't bothered to post it.

Thanks again Mike

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#279536 - 03/15/09 12:53 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Survivinguy]
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You have my admiration for being able to examine your reactions, so promptly, with honor for yourself and for others. Nice.


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#279579 - 03/15/09 05:27 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: brother2none]
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Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
Surviving,

AS I stated in my last pm to you.
I wish you had not deleted anything that you posted here until I could have responded to your pm.
I feel all opinions are important and have the right to be expressed here on M/S.
Even those I may not agree with,like or share.
Because your view of a subject could be as healing for someone here as mine.
In no way do I believe in trying to silience anyone here on M/s for whatever reasons.
Finding our VOICE and learning to express our ideas, feelings,and opinions to me is one of the most important aspects to our recovery.
To realize that we have the right to express ourselves as we feel lead is a fundamental right for all human beings.
Which many of us were stripped of as children because of the behavior of those who supposely taking care of us.

For me one of the most powerful healing aspects of my being a member of M/S has been the oppurtunity to express myself as honestly as I can right now.
And learning that I do not have to apologize for any of it whether others agree with me or not.

In the future please allow the mods to delete objectable posts that is their job.
Because as I said before you never know who you may help from what you have shared. And if you delete it that chance is gone.

Nice talking to you

Mike


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#280321 - 03/21/09 06:15 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: michael banks]
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Registered: 03/13/09
Posts: 457
I'm a sex addict...pretty sure....but not totally compulsive about it now...i think masturbation is my biggest problem in this area and can be tied to my CSA,...but there seems to be other behaviors not related to the CSA specifically but perhaps to other childhood developmental problems,..although porn has always been a pert of my life...i do not really feel I'm addicted to it....its more of a curiosity for me than anything...it does facilitate masturbation however...and seems to encourage unhealthy self image which i have always had great difficulty with...i have gone through phases where i would continually want to hookup often several times a day...that seemed very much like addictive behavior to me and very self distructive....there were times where i would go to the adult bookstore and cruise for sex the entire day,..unable to get anough..that was very distressing to me....but it seems the need to do that had several implications for me...i felt i used it as a way to prove i was worthy of someones affections even though none of those people really care on bit for me...i seemed to engage in that behavior more when i was very stressed about other things or feeling bad about myself...when i was less stressed i found that i would refrain from it...i really hated what that did to me though...i would become very aggressive and pushy, something i always found rather repulsive in others...i became just like them and it made me sick to my stomache...so i would walk away for a bit and start up again once my revulsion with my self subsided...im still dealing with these inclinations but they have been reduced to a managable level and it seems the more i come to terms with what happened in my childhood the less i need sex to pacify me or to artifically boost my ego.

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#283951 - 04/16/09 11:23 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: myboyhoodfears]
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Registered: 05/09/08
Posts: 86
Loc: midwest
Good questionaire, a lot of yesses, some no's, a few repressed maybes... damn! I'm going to go eat a steak instead!!


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#290111 - 06/03/09 04:52 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: sojourn111]
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Registered: 05/20/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
In searching Google for recovering healthy sexuality for men sexually abused as children, I came across this link to a 10 year-old medical research article on the subject of treating Sexual Addiction. Two MD's wrote the article and numerous other works and studies are cited. I thought that the result of their work might be helpful to some here.

Warning: May be ***Triggering*** to some.

Mark

www.sexualrecovery.com/resources/articles/addictivedisorders.doc

Also, you will have to agree to a non-disclosure agreement to view this document.

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#290124 - 06/03/09 05:42 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Trucker51]
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Loc: Denver, CO
Sexual addiction therapist in Denver:

http://www.glowcounseling.com/addiction.html

Mark

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#290200 - 06/04/09 04:33 AM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Trucker51]
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Registered: 06/12/08
Posts: 1755
Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
Mark,

I can not seem to open this.
What am I do wrong?

Mike

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#290209 - 06/04/09 06:23 AM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: michael banks]
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Registered: 05/20/08
Posts: 2826
Loc: Denver, CO
You may need to have Word on your computer to access the Sexualrecovery.com document. When I click on the link a menu comes up asking me to open the document with Word which I have to click on first, then a non-commercial use agreement drops down that you have to click "accept" on to finally open the document, which is 8 pages plus references.

Hope that you have Word on your computer. I have MS Office Professional 2003, which Word is included with.

Mark



Edited by Trucker51 (06/04/09 01:46 PM)
Edit Reason: changed non-disclosure to non-commercial use
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