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#279401 - 03/14/09 01:48 AM Sexual Addiction Test
michael banks Offline


Registered: 06/12/08
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Loc: Mojave Desert, Ca
Guys

Ran across this tonight
thought it could be useful to some.

1.Do you frquently feel remorse,shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?

2.Do you keep secrets about your sexual activities from those who are important to you? Do you lead a double life?

3.Have you ever felt hopeless or sucidal as a result of your sexual behavior.

4. Have you failed at attempts to stop or reduce your perferred sexual activity?

5.Do you find that you use sex to deal with stress,loneliness,sadness,fear or anger?

6.Are there times when your sexual urges,thoughts, or images seem to control you?

7.Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in the media.

8.Do your sexual thoughts about people make it difficult for fully relate to them?

9.Do you spend inordinated time thinking about sex?

10.Does your sexual activity include risk,threat,or reality of disease,pregnacy,coercion or violence?

11.Have you been arrested or are you in danger of arrest because of your sexual behavior?

12.Does your sexual relationships interferre with your spiritual beliefs or development?

13.Have yur relationships been negatively impacted by your sexual activities?

14.Has the need for sex driven you you to associate with people or spend time in places you would not normally choose?

15.Has your work suffered because of your sexual activities?

16.Is sex your most important need?


According to this site if you awswered yes to more than a few questions you should get more info on sexual addiction.

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#279410 - 03/14/09 04:21 AM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: michael banks]
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oh....i answered yes to a few of those

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#279438 - 03/14/09 12:54 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: king tut]
Letourski Offline


Registered: 03/15/08
Posts: 302
Loc: Canada
This is very interesting indeed, I answered yes to many of these questions. Thanks for the information, I will be doing some research now!

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#279447 - 03/14/09 03:11 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Letourski]
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If I substituted cocaine or cocaine abuse for sex, I had all but 3 of these that do not readily apply to cocaine addiction. And my cocaine addiction was heavily intertwined with my sexual behavior too. Nowadays, with more than 9 years clean off of cocaine, and with my CSA issues largely resolved for some years too, I think that I could answer yes to 1 question and another question involves a less-than clear cut yes or no answer.

So it is 1.5 out of 16 for me, as opposed to 13 out of 16 before starting my 2nd attempt at recovery in 1996.

So there is hope for recovery from sex addiction and cocaine too.

Mark



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#279450 - 03/14/09 04:09 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Trucker51]
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I only answered no to five. frown I feel bad.


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#279451 - 03/14/09 04:24 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Trucker51]
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Edited by ModTeam (03/14/09 10:08 PM)
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#279454 - 03/14/09 05:12 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: joelRT]
Trucker51 Offline
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As I said, my cocaine addiction and my sexual issues were intertwined.

Just have to let-go and live without your past.

8 years and 10 months ago I left my last group.

And have lived the best years of my life since then.

Yes, recovery is possible.

Mark



Edited by Trucker51 (03/20/09 03:51 AM)
Edit Reason: Apology accepted

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#279462 - 03/14/09 06:50 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Trucker51]
loberhead Offline
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Yikes, that is anger, Joel!! I thought you guys were friends?

I showed my therapist a questionnaire similar to this one that was screening for online sexual addiction. He said they took the questions asked for people addicted to alcohol and re-worded them for the sexual addiction.

People can be addicted to a lot of different things. For example, people can be addicted to volunteering or to shopping. Just because their addiction isn't to illegal drugs or lot of sex doesn't mean it is any less unhealthy or easier to overcome. And this reminds me that it is something I have been working on lately. Just because I have a sex addiction doesn't mean that sex is bad. What's bad is my over-using it in unhealthy ways. I need to figure out how to stop doing this unhealthy thing and I think I can eventually. I hope so.

Drugs are expensive and very addicting. I am sure that people would do ANYTHING to get drugs if they didn't have the money to do so. One of those things might be to sell themselves out on the streets. For an abused individual this may seem very logical ("I'm only good for one thing," "I'll get money doing what I know best" etc.). And so they use money they get by acting out sexually to pay for an addiction.

I'm saying all of these things but I've never been addicted to drugs. I know people who have been and this is what they have done.

I think Mark was simply trying to offer his knowledge in the way he felt he could - by his own experiences. But at the same time I think your anger is important. I'm wondering what is at the core of it.


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#279491 - 03/14/09 10:45 PM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: loberhead]
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#279502 - 03/15/09 01:50 AM Re: Sexual Addiction Test [Re: Survivinguy]
michael banks Offline


Registered: 06/12/08
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Like in my post it only states that if you answer yes to more than a few questions that you should get more information on sexual addiction.
That is all.
No where does it state that your answers regardless of what they are means that you are a sex addict.
That is a discision only each person can make for himself.

Just a questionaire that you will find at any sex addicts(SA) meeting.


Surviving

Are you not overreacting a little?
This post has nothing to do with "Said teenager" or his experience.

Mike


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