Several of my perps were unknown to me, and at least a couple are already deceased, but I got to see one of my perps squirm really good when my mother's book came out in 1997. In the preface of her book she wrote how several older boys who were family friends did certain generic things, and my one perp threatened to sue her to force her to change her writing even though he wasn't named. He made a bunch of noise then got laughed right out of court. I haven't heard a word since either.
I recently found another perp of mine living the high life in Burlington, VT. There is a photo of him on his brokerage firm's website. I always wanted to send him a tough voicemail. Guy is made of money and I wonder how much of it he would be willing to part with???
But the most-damaging perp of mine has remained a mystery. And the 2nd most-damaging drank himself to death more than 20 years ago. So confronting them is impossible. But as Nocona says, my recovery has not been dependent on confronting them. It was a good day for me when I heard that my one perp was going to sue, and an even better one when he was told that he had no case. Too bad there was a statute of limitations because he basically incriminated himself with his legal action. I know where he lives too.
Maybe someday I'll get even, though probably not. I hardly ever even think about them or what they did these days anyway.
You guys can get to that point too if you keep trying,
"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark