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#27354 - 03/10/05 09:21 AM Just some thoughts
ak Offline
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Registered: 01/10/04
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This just is some thoughts that are brought on to me from something I read from a friend in email.

I have learned, recent, that life is for the living. We have lost two people in our family since January. Husband and wife to each other. I hurt for my mom, for my cousins, and for myself and rest of my family. But, lucky, I am still alive. We have custom, in our culture, to have forty day morning period after someone dies. It was almost over for my Uncle, and now it have started again. We are not suppose to do 'fun' things in that time. Well, skating to me is fun. But also, it is my 'job'. So I get away with doing it, specially with competing next week. I have fun in practice yesterday and today, and for minute feel guilty, that I am not suppose to have fun. But is there fun if we are dead? My Uncle, he was a fun man, he always have jokes and play jokes to people, and was silly person with us when we are growing up. He do not want us to not have fun. I know that and believe it.

We all have the rest of our lives to us. It may be 60 years. It may be tomorrow. What do you want your last act on this earth to be? Wasted energy being angry with someone, someone who is miserable inside themself so they done something wrong to you? Wishing to do something, to go somewhere, to try something new, and not doing it because you have fear of failure? Or do you want your last minutes here on earth to be spent doing something you enjoy. Eating something that tastes good. Telling someone you love them. Laughing. Feeling happy.

It maybe is not what is appreciated, not right now, in my culture. But I will choose happy and laughing. My life could end tomorrow.

Andrei


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#27355 - 03/10/05 09:34 AM Re: Just some thoughts
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Registered: 07/05/04
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The dead would honor your choice of attitude. Thank you for understand that life is about the joy of living.


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#27356 - 03/10/05 12:41 PM Re: Just some thoughts
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Registered: 06/21/04
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Androsh,

Everything you just posted is the absolute truth!

Enjoy yourself the next few weeks competing and spending time with your family. I know that your Aunt and Uncle would want exactly that for you.


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#27357 - 03/10/05 02:32 PM Re: Just some thoughts
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Registered: 12/19/03
Posts: 5400
Loc: Pasadena, CA
be well andrei -
it sounds like you are being
very supportive to your family -
- take it day to day -
it is a time of hurt and change -

take it easy -

mark

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#27358 - 03/10/05 02:35 PM Re: Just some thoughts
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Registered: 12/19/03
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you have the right idea -

keep competing and go for it!!

mark

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"...do not look outside yourself for the leader."
-wisdom of the hopi elders

"...the sign of a true leader is service..." - anonymous



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#27359 - 03/10/05 05:10 PM Re: Just some thoughts
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Registered: 07/25/03
Posts: 1192
Andrei, thank you for the posting. Inspirational thoughts. Peace, Andrew

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#27360 - 03/11/05 12:53 AM Re: Just some thoughts
RICK57 Offline
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Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Loc: ENGLAND
Andrei - when I die, I want everyone to have a really good party (assuming I don't outlive all of my friends). I want them to do this because they will remember me as someone who knew how to live (once I get this bloody court case over).

They will have to listen to music by Motorhead, Budgie, Hell is for Heroes & many others. They will eat Tex Mex & British Beef with Mustard. They will drink fine wines & good vodka

I will expect that they wear Bad Taste Clothing (naff outdated fashions in the worst possible taste).

There will be no religious service - if I have time to prepare, they will have a video of me telling them to 'Rock on and Party' until the dawn....no wusses 12 hour session minimum.

Everyone that I know that has died would like to be respected in death, but they would not want me to be miserable about it (it's bloody hard not to be sometimes).

Enjoy your life Andrei.... best wishes ..Rik (could say party on dude, but that's a bit 80's).

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*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

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#27361 - 03/11/05 05:18 PM Re: Just some thoughts
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Andrei I could not have said it better myself. We all choose our own form of mourning. Sure we miss their physical presence but we are left with so much more, just as you have stated. And it is that that lives within us and by remembering that way we pay them the greatest honour possible for those we loved.

And you are right. God only promises us right now. The call today the Present. And that is what it is. A present to us.

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IT REALLY IS OK TO STUMBLE. NONE OF US ARE PERFECT.

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