HAHAHA! DSB. That's great, goes right up there with the NRB, no reason boner.

... trapped in isolation with no key to open the door and let anyone in to even touch me - much less draw stronger feelings ...

I think I know what you're talking about Geeders, but I have absolutely no idea how to put that feeling into words. It's kinda like you're looking forward to whats about to happen so much that you get yourself all worked up for it until the point where you can't take it anymore and you'd give anything to get to the release? Is that what you're getting at?

Hey Brothers :-)

I concur with an earlier statement that horny is a state... to me it is closely related to lustfulness, it is wanting a release. Horny is the state that has most often been about my misconnection. I have spent the majority of my adult life disconnected from my emotions. I heard Patrick Carnes speak about confusing fear with arousal and my head snapped back. soo much of my life has been driven by a misconnect of emotions driving me to arousal... wanting a ejaculatory release to numb the underlying pain in my soul.

For me Horny, unless I know my arousal to be linked to an expression of love, is about numbing my emotions to escape from my pain. I can no longer trust when I am horny it is a red flag that tells me to "lean into my pain" and work my program of recovery.

Love you all, Wes

I feel horny driving my car sometimes, and then I may see or read something that makes me feel horny. I don’t get an erection I don’t want emotion or necessarily have sex I just feel horny, then it passes. Sometimes I get aroused and part of that arousal is hornynes. Other times I just want to get off and I don’t see that as horny. So yes I agree horny is a feeling.

Dusty

jim for me horniness is definitely a brain chemistry thing.

i think someone else got my share of testosterone, so i don't feel the effect of the build up unless a lot of time passes in between sexual activities.

arousal happens when hormones and fantasy or realtime 3d contact conspire.

ron

When I was a kid I was learning to play the horn. That is, one made out of brass with a mouthpiece on one end and a bell on the other.

I really enjoyed the sound of my instrument as I heard it on the radio. When a piece of music had a lot of good horn playing in it, I called it "horny". I was describing a horny piece to someone. My sister overheard and got word back to me that "horny" was not the right word to use.



Allen

pufferfish

Allen;

may you be richly blessed... you brought a smile to my face and warmth to my heart. you often do this big Brother.

from the heart, Wes

ok, my take for what it is worth
Horny is a feeling
Arousal is a physical state
desire is an emotion
the desire to connect physical, that is normal
they all intertwine

Just my opinion.
Dan

Dear friends:

Horny (correctly: libidinous) is a feeling of wanting to get sexual release, by myself or with someone else.

Sometimes I just want to be near people or one special person. I call that Yearning.

Regards,

Mike