I did not think you had any intent to offend. We are all in different places but hopefully on the way to recovery while supporting each other.I appreciate your acknowledgment as well as your comments and insights. Yes I had a reaction to your post but at the same time hold firm to my belief that change starts in the head. Our bodies respond to the internal thought one way or another.
It is equally true that perceptions influence us too.I perceived your comments to imply the intellectual process as pointless, as if thinking is useless and only doing "it" (the action) matter. Yes thinking and doing are very different but you don't do anything until you have the thought. Any plan begins with the thought.
I quote you below:
"Intellectual ideas on abuse issues and recovery are good and all. But recovery takes place when your feet are on the ground and not when our heads are in the air."
It seems better to have your head in the air to take in alternative ideas beyond our distorted self. Otherwise we may as well have heads in the sand.
When we/I spend time inside our heads on the past of course it becomes a trap and counterproductive. But time spent on alternative healthy thoughts aimed at change the improvement begins. Therefore, change the thought, change the thought, change the thought.
Anyway, I can't say more. I feel like I am going in circles. I am okay. I wish you continued healing too Mike.
When you stumble, make it part of the dance.