I think that abuse can easily become a handy reason to deny one's sexuality. You just say to yourself "Well, I'm not really gay or bi, I'm just confused because of the abuse."

I also think that as long as one is influenced by society's non-acceptance of homosexuality, it will be very difficult to know if that notion is based on fact or bias.

I don't believe that being bisexual means that you can't have a monogamous relationship if you desire one, but neither do I believe that a meaningful relationship necessarily has to be a monogamous one.

I would say that I am in two very meaningful non-monogamous relationships right now with an older man and a younger one and both are a cherished part of my life.

I just think it's bad to limit yourself. I feel that if we survivors in general could spend less time thinking of reasons why we can't have a healthy relationship and more time thinking of reasons we can, we might all do a lot better!--- and that goes for me as well.

z

Originally Posted By: nonchalant
"I feel like a complete misfit who isn't straight enough to be straight but isn't gay enough to be gay."



this is how i feel right now !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is good what you said (Ithink its a bad to limit yourself)
that is so very true sexual orientation(Gay,Bi,striaght)is not the issue its what you said its bad to limit yourself if you want a relationship whatever the sex then it all comes down to how bad do you want that are you willing to sacrafice because no relationship is easy I know this from experience a failed one at that because I wanted my cake and to eat it to. Love and commitment comes with prices its 50 50 not80 20 I myself am Bi I have a child of 18 years old and he is in college as you can tell by my spelling that I was a drop out and worked all my life
2 halfs dont equal a whole like in math in realtionships 2 wholes equal 1 marriage if your not a whole person or the mate then the other is carrying part of your load and it might take 5,10 even 20 years but you have to committ all of you to all of them and them to make it life long thats true love which I dont happen to know personaly but Ive been around enough to know the equasion and where I failed that is just my opinion I hope thats allowed here and not to hurt anyone just answering the question the way I see it which is debatable I'm sure

Labels are for cans

If we just look at what is attractive in an individual then things would be so much easier. "I'm not in love with guy, girl, bi, etc. Instead, I am in love and attracted to "insert name".

The label really is pointless at that point.

Mike