Since the last post to the thread on HIV/AIDS forum dates back 6 months ago, I decided a new topic might get more notice to connect anyone interested in CONFIDENTIAL answers.
Here are two links in the United States. The first link has a toll free hot line with trained volunteers to take questions. The second site will handle email and has a discussion board.
Both are long standing sites with a wealth of information and they both handle questions and education.
http://www.projectinform.org/ Has the toll free number
http://www.thebody.com/ Has archives and answers email on the site.
When you stumble, make it part of the dance.