Shame is a big killer. That one is hard and its so destructive. I like to think that there is no reason to feel ashamed. That I believe is true but sometimes its hard to hold on to that concept. So many things happen throughout the day that we forget to hold on to that ideal and start to feel shame again because it has been ingrained into our habits for so long.
Awareness is key. Monitoring your thoughts and being aware of what caused you to feel the shame, whether it be in the past or present, is crucial to overcoming shame and getting it the heck out of your life for the time being. Maybe looking back at each situation and questioning yourself "Should I really be ashamed of that? If so, why?". Write it down and see what your answers are and you'll be shocked about what you believed and how those beliefs were based on something that was entirely not true.
There are so many better things to feel than shame so I look at shame as being a waste of time and energy but, that is only my perspective that I choose to have. You are responsible for your own.
Gotta hand it to ya, Jason, this is a really good post right here! Not that all of em on this thread aren't, but this is my big battle right now too, and what you have suggested here is the one thing that I have been recently having the most success with.
And Stephan, thanks for bringing this up again! I don't think it can be talked about too much on MS cuz it's such a huge issue for so many of us!