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#260446 - 11/07/08 04:33 PM It's time I do something good
AmbrociousXP Offline


Registered: 11/07/08
Posts: 2
Loc: United States
I'm new here but not new to the treatment that this site seems to offer. I'm glad that sites like this are in place first of all and I hope that I don't seem haughty when I say that I applaud the every effort of everyone here that is dedicated to helping people in need.

I wont go into detail right now but I will say that I went through several residential treatment facilities for what was done to me (and what I nearly did to others) and the last place that I went to is called the El Pueblo Boys & Girls Ranch. It was this last place that I went to that offered me either a last chance or to offer me a part in getting better and being a positive role model to my peers. Luckily I choose to be a positive role model and to this day I thank everyone that made it possible for me to be alive today and living a mostly normal life.

My problem comes now however when my X-Boy friend met up with some guy on the internet. I naturally still care about my x and so I started to find out things about him.

He seemed cool at first but them he started to talk about how he gets so turned on that he every now and then has sex with a 9 year old boy...I all of a sudden saw gigantic red flags going up every where as my x boyfriend is to meet this guy (this guy is 19 and my x is 18). But the thing that worried me most is that for a short time...his deviant talk led me into some dark fantasies that made me break down and cry for what I had purposly looked up on the internet.

I shouldn't get into details with anyone here but trust me when I say that the things I looked up was horrible. What I was taught at the boys and girls ranch was empathy above all else. For 3 and a half years of intense treatment I learned and became confident and then graduate from there with flying colors. That day was a true happy day for me, in fact I can't recall any other day of my life that was so happy.

The problem I face now is my x boyfriend and I still hang out and we still hug each other and I really still love him and care for him...but I'm worried that if this guy comes down he might drag my x down with him.

Is there something I can do to help stop bad things from happening besides the obvious? I know that what I've been taught and learned is good but I'd like some more help here and as much as possible. Thank you very much.


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#260486 - 11/07/08 11:02 PM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: AmbrociousXP]
king tut Offline
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I am not sure what you are asking?

But i hope this is a typing mistake and you meant 19 instead of 9, right?

Originally Posted By: AmbrociousXP
how he gets so turned on that he every now and then has sex with a 9 year old boy...


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#260499 - 11/08/08 12:32 AM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: AmbrociousXP]
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Originally Posted By: AmbrociousXP

when my X-Boy friend met up with some guy on the internet.

he gets so turned on that he every now and then has sex with a 9 year old boy...I all of a sudden saw gigantic red flags going up every where as my x boyfriend is to meet this guy

his deviant talk led me into some dark fantasies that made me break down and cry for what I had purposly looked up on the internet.

the things I looked up was horrible. What I was taught at the boys and girls ranch was empathy above all else.

I'm worried that if this guy comes down he might drag my x down with him.

Is there something I can do to help stop bad things from happening besides the obvious?


em·pa·thy 1. Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives. 2. The attribution of one's own feelings to an object.

Yes, I see gigantic red flags here also. It is good that you have realized the danger here.

It is very scary to me also. In my opinion you are in great danger and need to pull away.

I was involved as a subject in kiddie porn a month before my 4th birthday. Believe me it is highly destructive. If you had been a victim of it as I was you would really have empathy.


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#260521 - 11/08/08 08:02 AM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: king tut]
Sans Logos Offline
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lewis, it seems mixed up, but what i understood the reference to be
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my X-Boy friend met up with some guy on the internet

the guy who is bragging about having sex with a 9 yo child is 19, and AmbrociousXP's bf is 18, about who he is concerned.

at any rate, the mods have already been notified about this thread so hopefully action is being taken to further investigate.

this whole thread feels extremely surreal----like twin peaks come firewalk with me surreal.

ron

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#260589 - 11/08/08 03:15 PM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: Sans Logos]
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Registered: 09/04/07
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Loc: Central Ohio
AmbrociousXP,

If this guy is bragging about having sex with a 9 year old, you should report him to authorities. The 9 year old doesn't deserve to be continually abused and your ex-boyfriend is at risk of being dragged down with this man. This is all around a BAD thing. And by all means, protect yourself!

Peace and love...

Michael


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#260734 - 11/09/08 01:44 PM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: M3]
AmbrociousXP Offline


Registered: 11/07/08
Posts: 2
Loc: United States
This guy that is doing these horrible things to the boy lives in Inglewood CO. and he is so called "rich with no consequence" or so he thinks. The boys parents caught this guy who was hurting the boy and supposedly said to finish up in five minutes...my heart sank it felt to the bottom of the ocean if the boys parents don't even care about what is happening to their own son! I wish I could help but I believe that this other guy has powerful dangerous friends in high places to off people like me if need be. I'm stuck...


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#260735 - 11/09/08 01:51 PM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: AmbrociousXP]
steveb121 Offline
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Registered: 01/02/01
Posts: 157
Loc: Swindon, UK
Report him/them and let the police and others take responsibilily for the child

You owe the child that, if nothing else, to stop him from the danger he faces and is in

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#260736 - 11/09/08 01:59 PM Re: It's time I do something good [Re: AmbrociousXP]
Gerald2007 Offline
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Registered: 08/03/07
Posts: 157
Loc: Southeastern US
Amb....
How much of what you are telling us about the sexual abuse of a 9 year old is based on first hand information. Information that the abuser has told you directly?

If you have direct knowledge of the abuse DO NOT even bother replying to this post, but immeditely pick up the phone and call the police.

How much of the information is based on what your ex-boyfriend is telling you? If the information is based on what you ex-boyfriend is telling you, then please use whatever influence you have in getting your ex to report the abuse to the police now.

Sometimes having empathy or compassion is NOT enough, we must DO something.

Gerald

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#260740 - 11/09/08 02:14 PM If you just wonna talk [Re: AmbrociousXP]
Vin Offline


Registered: 11/09/08
Posts: 19
Loc: UK
Hey guys,

Without wanting to sound corny, but if anyone just wants to talk, let me know...

Vin


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#260741 - 11/09/08 02:18 PM Re: If you just wonna talk [Re: Vin]
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Hey Vin,

It's nice to meet you, I'm Joel. Welcome to MS. I think you'll find a great buch of guys to talk to and who'll listen to you as well.

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