Newest Members
lilac, The Wife Of, smusab, whiteflag, North101
12287 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
cyclebreaker (41), monkeybusinessinky (28), Tom Byrnes (55), wind west (30)
Who's Online
3 registered (YYZGIRL, Obi, GT13568), 13 Guests and 5 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
12287 Members
73 Forums
63219 Topics
442062 Posts

Max Online: 418 @ 07/02/12 07:29 AM
Twitter
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >
Topic Options
#259916 - 11/03/08 03:12 PM regression to childhood *might trigger*
sunwolf Offline


Registered: 09/20/08
Posts: 225
Loc: Indiana
Does anyone here has this sindrom? I do...My T says is common for abused people...many times when am under stress and anxious I regress to being a child...I feel like one and even talk like one...I feel I need protection when I am like that... My T thinks its a way of disassociation...when I was being raped I tended to switch off my mind and I was in another place and age...an age before i was molested...



Edited by sunwolf (11/04/08 01:38 PM)

Top
#259921 - 11/03/08 04:32 PM . [Re: sunwolf]
bardo213 Offline
Guest

Registered: 11/21/07
Posts: 811
.


Edited by bardo213 (06/21/13 06:44 PM)

Top
#259926 - 11/03/08 05:54 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: bardo213]
Fissy Tsickens Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/23/08
Posts: 466
Loc: Bassett, Virginia
I sleep with a stuffed opossum (no, I don't mean my wife). At the WoR, we were encouraged to bring a stuffed animal with us. I scoffed. They had a supply of them there, and I took to one particular stuffed dog. It was actually calming and comforting to hold onto it during disclosure in small groups. About a week later I was at a Cracker Barrel restaurant, and they had these stuffed 'possums. I thought, "what the hell..." and bought one. I've slept with it every night since. My wife thinks it's cute that I'm doing it and has no problem with it.

Anyway, it's not exactly the same thing, but in a way, allowing myself to do something childish really feels GOOD, and RIGHT. It's nice to have something to snuggle during the night, and I wake up feeling more rested. Maybe allowing ourselves times to be kids again is an okay thing?

(((sunwolf)))

Peace,

John

_________________________
Wish that I could cry
Fall upon my knees
Find a way to lie
About a home Iíll never see

It may sound absurd...but donít be naive
Even heroes have the right to bleed
I may be disturbed...but wonít you concede
Even heroes have the right to dream
Itís not easy to be me

Top
#259930 - 11/03/08 06:12 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: Fissy Tsickens]
KENKEN Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/25/07
Posts: 762
Loc: NOTHERN COLORADO
When I finally found my "inner child" during my recovery, was when I took a giant leap to understanding just who this "Ken" guy is.

Prior to my disclosure I completely blocked out my 5 years of CSA. It was going to be my secret and I was able to do just that. But then the nightmares started and I could not longer live with the pain. I found my "inner child" after my sister sent me some pic's of me when I was a child. The pic's of me prior to my SA are my avatar. The pic's during the abuse I still cannot look at. Maybe some day.

Yes, I have a stuffed bear that I hold dear to my healing. I love that "little guy" so much. I just wish I could be as much of a fighter and warrier as he was during those years of SA. He is my "hero". He is my determination today!

Regression to childhood, YES and for me, it is a Healing Experience.

Ken

_________________________
I AM A GOOD PERSON, I AM A GOOD MAN

From the Movie: Antwone Fisher

***WOR ALUMNI SEQUOIA MARCH 2008***

Top
#259932 - 11/03/08 06:20 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: sunwolf]
joelRT Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor


Registered: 09/11/08
Posts: 1357
Loc: Quťbec, Canada
Sunwolf,

Quote:
many times when am under stress and anxious I regress to being a child...I feel like one and even talk like one...I feel I need protection when I am like that...


If I'm feeling particularly emotional and therefore vulnerable when being sexual, then boom, out comes little Joel........try that on with a grown man, not exactly a turn on. Geez, no wonder I'm still single.

So, no, you're not alone.

_________________________
My Story 1
My Story 2
The longest journey we take is to self-discovery

Top
#259935 - 11/03/08 06:55 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: joelRT]
pufferfish Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6818
Loc: USA
I have had big time issues with this. I have understood my childhood stuff to be part of disassociative disorder. I really kind of secretly enjoyed feeling like my 12-yr-old self, although the shrouds of trauma on the boy were very heavy. EMDR pretty much made him merge into me, but I still have times when I seem to regress into the 12-yr-old.

I even used to have a box of toys. Things like a dinasaur model. My wife got rid of most of it in a housecleaning binge.





Top
#259965 - 11/03/08 10:05 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: pufferfish]
blueshift Offline
Guest

Registered: 01/21/08
Posts: 1242
Loc: infinity
Hi.
I'm little dugy.
I like 2 regress 2.
mostly when I'm really scared.
I'm starting a room in chat.
It's for me and anyone who wants 2 regress with me.
It will be from 5pm to 10 pm PDT tonight and 5pm to 8pm PDT
for the rest of the week.

*** this has been cancelled until further notice--I need to review and consult on the issue of safety with this idea to determine if it's dangerous from a psychological standpoint.***


Big Dug is having a hard time and he needs 2 be me for a while.
I hope u come and c me.

little duggy.




Edited by blueshift (11/04/08 02:02 PM)
Edit Reason: add announcement
_________________________
My Story
My Art

Top
#259972 - 11/03/08 10:53 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: blueshift]
Barkabus Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/09/08
Posts: 809
I have two recent occurrences of childhood regression. I don't recall any other times. It was releasing to be young again and talk about the things I was interested in when I was say 7-10 years old. Its hard to describe. The second occurrence happened in chat the other day.

Hey, maybe I'll let little mikie join little duggy in chat.

Mike

_________________________
My Story

Top
#259978 - 11/03/08 11:39 PM Re: regression to childhood [Re: Barkabus]
Davesc Offline


Registered: 09/24/08
Posts: 67
Loc: NJ
I also thougt stuffed animals were silly at the WOR. But I brought my sons first stuffed animal. I was to shy or ashamed to bring it to group, but I got hold of a bear and did not let go. I want to revert to a child many times I think that is especially normal for anyone who has gone through trauma. We all think the stuff we do or think is weird. It isn't, it is just us . And > There are a lot of US out there!!! Lots of love guys Dave

_________________________
Davesc
_______________________________________
Thankful Wor Kirkridge Alumni Oct 2008

Top
#259987 - 11/04/08 05:22 AM Re: regression to childhood [Re: Davesc]
blueshift Offline
Guest

Registered: 01/21/08
Posts: 1242
Loc: infinity
A little revision to the regression room little dugy told u about.
If u visit and sense that you are beginning to encounter something painful in your regression experience type "blueshift" so that I and any others in the room can be alerted to your distress and shift out of child mode to support you better.

Likewise if I find myself in trouble I will do the same so others can shift back to help me. Shifting back and forth can be difficult sometimes but I trust we'll all do the best we can and having a kind of "panic word" will help snap us out of it.

No one is under any obligation to shift out though it's completely your choice..I always will though and when I'm back I'll say "I'm here" to let you know I'm unregressed and you may continue your regression experience with the support of an adult mind.

Since my screen name is being used as the panic word, call me blue, Doug or dugy in the room, but try not to call me blueshift in the room to avoid confusion.







Edited by blueshift (11/04/08 05:31 AM)
Edit Reason: correct missing words
_________________________
My Story
My Art

Top
#260052 - 11/04/08 01:28 PM +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: sunwolf]
ineffable Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/08
Posts: 1371
Loc: state of holeecrapdood
I have had some experience with regression with a licensed hypnotherapist.
Inner child "play" in chat might be one thing...
but is conscious regression wise without some kind of professional involved?

C

_________________________
:: "Anyone who can handle a needle convincingly can make us see a thread which is not there" ::


Top
#260055 - 11/04/08 01:34 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: ineffable]
sunwolf Offline


Registered: 09/20/08
Posts: 225
Loc: Indiana
Ineffable...yes there is a process in therapy known as regression..but in my case if not induce but spontaneus...is like a form of disassociation...



Edited by sunwolf (11/04/08 01:35 PM)

Top
#260056 - 11/04/08 01:38 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: sunwolf]
ineffable Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/08
Posts: 1371
Loc: state of holeecrapdood
Just to clarify...

my thoughts were in response to reading the ENTIRE thread
& another member's setting up specific times & rooms for conscious regression

I aint no expert, but offering my 2 cents for the purpose of dialogue

C

_________________________
:: "Anyone who can handle a needle convincingly can make us see a thread which is not there" ::


Top
#260060 - 11/04/08 01:52 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: ineffable]
blueshift Offline
Guest

Registered: 01/21/08
Posts: 1242
Loc: infinity
Originally Posted By: ineffable
I have had some experience with regression with a licensed hypnotherapist.
Inner child "play" in chat might be one thing...
but is conscious regression wise without some kind of professional involved?

C


I have asked myself this a lot since last night. Since I have experienced a lot of both deliberate and spontaneous regressions myself w/o any professional supervision, I wudn't think 1 is necessary, but if any professionals reading this think this is a bad idea, let me know here. I wud like 2 hear some input on this.

In fact, I also think I might postpone the room for a couple days 2 give time 4 feedback here. My only proposed support offered with this is just that of another caring survivor and it's role wud be stricly being a safe reassuring presence for the regressor to anchor on.

If anyone with expertise in this area has concerns that this might not be sufficient, please give your feedback here in the next couple days.


_________________________
My Story
My Art

Top
#260061 - 11/04/08 02:00 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: blueshift]
sunwolf Offline


Registered: 09/20/08
Posts: 225
Loc: Indiana
smile i see now ineffable and i do welcome your posts..everytime you givee good advice and feelings smile



Edited by sunwolf (11/05/08 10:21 AM)

Top
#260062 - 11/04/08 02:46 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: sunwolf]
blueshift Offline
Guest

Registered: 01/21/08
Posts: 1242
Loc: infinity
OK. I've just realized that I've put way too much trust in my depressed, regressed, disabled and unstable brain to come up with good ideas.

My fuzzy and ill-considered thinking was of just a place where folks cud just find release and relaxation by reverting to simpler mind modes, but I never had the presence of mind to consider the negative possibilities of what could happen until it was too late and someone got hurt.

If anyone with credentials in the area of regression thinks the idea is worth reviving speak up, but unless the idea gets support from someone who is knowledgeable about this kind of thing, let's consider this idea officially scrapped.

I'm realizing now how stupid my original idea was to put a kid in a room and think that that kid would provide any safety or support appropriate to the task of being there for someone else in regression. Two scared kids in a room. Brilliant Doug.


I guess all I've been lately is little dugy trying to do adult things and trying to help put out fires with flamethrowers and gas bombs. Little dugy and I are both grounded now for the remainder of the depression.





Edited by blueshift (11/04/08 03:02 PM)
_________________________
My Story
My Art

Top
#260066 - 11/04/08 04:12 PM Re: +Trigger possibility+ regression to childhood [Re: blueshift]
ineffable Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/08
Posts: 1371
Loc: state of holeecrapdood
Mr Shift

Don't throw little Dugy out in the regression water.
Dialogue GOOOOD.
smile

Give it a few days, get some other's thoughts & make an informed decision.

C

_________________________
:: "Anyone who can handle a needle convincingly can make us see a thread which is not there" ::


Top
#260096 - 11/04/08 09:40 PM Re: regression to childhood *might trigger* [Re: sunwolf]
OICU812 Offline
Guest

Registered: 07/06/07
Posts: 48
Loc: US
Originally Posted By: sunwolf
Does anyone here has this sindrom? I do...My T says is common for abused people...many times when am under stress and anxious I regress to being a child...I feel like one and even talk like one...I feel I need protection when I am like that... My T thinks its a way of disassociation...when I was being raped I tended to switch off my mind and I was in another place and age...an age before i was molested...


I have similar feeling to the last part of your post. Not necessary feelings of disassociation or regression but getting very tired/sleepy when I think about some aspects of my abuse. I can't actually recall what I was thinking when I was being molested, I just froze and switched off my mind kind of like what you described so I wasn't really thinking about another time/place.

Wish you well in recovery.


Top
#260115 - 11/04/08 11:50 PM Re: regression to childhood *might trigger* [Re: OICU812]
Barkabus Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/09/08
Posts: 809
My regression experience had an unintended outcome last night. I relived some very painful things that I did as a little kid that I still carry a huge amount of guilt over.

Setting things on fire, stealing money from my mom and dad, shop lifting and hurting animals. Oh I was five or six when I started doing this.

Doug I do not hold you responsible for my reliving this. I'm not upset with you over this in the slightest. It just happened. Its OK. In fact it opened another window into little mikie's hidden early childhood. One more piece of the puzzle of possible early abuse that I do not fully remember.

CRAP!

_________________________
My Story

Top
Page 1 of 2 1 2 >


Moderator:  ModTeam, TJ jeff 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.