when I see the same suspicion toward survivors that I see in the world reflected here at MS.
I guess it's not that unusual for a survivor to see perps behind every bush.
I get that way myself in the 3d world..but here at MS I let the mods worry about sniffing out anyone suspicious and operate under the assumption that everyone here is just a survivor like me working on their recovery until I see real evidence to the contrary.
Not understanding another person's survivor issues doesn't make that person a perp. Another person's ideas about perps and what should be done about them does not make him a perp.
There are a lot of symptoms of sexual abuse such as evasiveness, nondisclosure, inappropriate feelings of guilt, lack of trust, and many other things that can be interpreted as something sinister but they don't make a person a perp.
If your fear of perps makes you distrust everyone and want to assume everyone is guilty until proven innocent, that is your issue that you need to work on. Don't make it everyone else's.
If someone does something really suspect like asking you your address, that's a red flag and it's time to notify a mod, but please don't go forming half-baked opinions about who the perps on MS are and go about trying to get others on board with those ideas!
That is NOT helpful here, whether it's overt or subtle, it's still crap.
I don't want to see fear turn MS into a place where you can only work on your recovery after somehow proving to everyone you aren't a perp. I'm not a perp, so it isn't my responsibility to prove I'm not.
Perps have already presided over my SA. Fear of them will NOT preside over my recovery.
My sense of security here at MS comes from the fact that I don't give out personal info. It doesn't come from efforts of others to tip others off about who is suspicious or fishy.
We can all be suspicious or fishy if that's what your looking for here, but I'm not looking for perps I'm looking for recovery from sexual abuse. Got any? or are you too busy looking for possible perps?