Interesting thread,

Makes perfect sense, in an after the fact sort of way.

It also brings up a senario of MB related stuff that I no longer due, my T convinced me this type of behavior is not good for me, and I agree.

This behavior went on for so long, it feels almost shamefull
to admit, but I've come far enough to realize the shame is not mine to own.


You are so Beautifull (Joe Cocker)

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Mike my Brother,

There is a thread in the MaleSurvivor forum "Abused by Female/Mother" that may have some gems for you. I posted a reference to a Mother/Son incest book there along with comments from Joe Kort praising the Author for addressing the topic. Wendy Maltz in her book "The Sexual Healing Journey" takes time early on to validate female on male sexual abuse, including a reference to a Barbara Walters interview of Don Johnson where he speaks of his first sexual encounter -- which was clearly abuse at the hands of an older woman --. http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthr...6561#Post256561

My Brother, I am certain you will find many men who share your abuse history as you progress along in your recovery. I certainly have, and the list keeps growing.

As a final note I have heard and read Patrick Carnes -- a pioneer and leading voice in the field of Sexual Addictions -- note that in our society it is difficult for men to identify experiences as abuse. A young boy and an older woman is more likely to be viewed as a "Score" than as the Abuse that it is. Not unlike my abuse at the hands of a female babysitter when I was 10/11.

Keep walking through your recovery, stay connected with your fellows and supports, and work through your pain points. You will surely find the Joy that has been obscured by your wounds.

Love, Wes.

My friends and Brothers;

I was blessed with a PM referencing the Mother/Son Incest book. It is more of a research document and could be triggering to survivors. My feeling is that it is a piece of validation, and is wise to approach it with caution. --The author went in to the topic thinking that it did not exist, and admits such in the forward of the 2nd edition -- I pray that it leads to more work and research in a truly overlooked area of CSA. I did not connect with my abuse at the hands of my babysitter until I was into recovery and working through the pain of my various abuses.

As with much of my recovery work I subscribe to Carnes's "Gentle Path" to healing. Lets work together in love, caring and support .

*** IMHO *** your are 110% correct in stating that we need a forum for "Mother/Son Female/Male" abuse topics. This is something that ought to be brought up to the Mod's/Admins here at MS.

with Love and Hope, Wes

Dear Wes-b:

Because of a few friendly encouragements in PMs I have during the last days PMed all the Moderators here on the MS-forum, suggesting that we need a forum for the 20 percent of men that have been abused by females. The Good news is that it seems that they agree on this and that such a forum will be up and running and running soon. It is my hope that this will bring more focus to these issues so it will no longer be "The unspeakeable last taboo" among men that has been sexually abused as boys by females.

Thank you for the reading suggestions Wes.

Healing and Love, Niels