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#258544 - 10/28/08 01:29 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: sunwolf]
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And it may give you a sense of being in control of a sexual situation when you did not have control back then.


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#258647 - 10/28/08 09:02 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: sunwolf]
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Registered: 09/24/08
Posts: 67
Loc: NJ
I continued to act out all my life. Love was sex and sex was love . All the boys who lived around me knew I was a good time. I have carried it into adulthood. I am trying to break that pattern. You may have been trying to relive it to get a high or what you thought was love or you may have acted out to get rid of the pain , or give it to someone else. WE WERE KIDS. Different rules apply. It was and is not your fault. Go easy on yourself. Dave

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#258649 - 10/28/08 09:03 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: AndyJB2005]
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Registered: 09/24/08
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I continued to act out all my life. Love was sex and sex was love . All the boys who lived around me knew I was a good time. I have carried it into adulthood. I am trying to break that pattern. You may have been trying to relive it to get a high or what you thought was love or you may have acted out to get rid of the pain , or give it to someone else. WE WERE KIDS. Different rules apply. It was and is not your fault. Go easy on yourself. Dave

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#258665 - 10/28/08 09:35 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: Davesc]
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The problem with acting out sexually is eventually it stops giving you the numbing feeling you want. And then where are you? Right back where you started, alone with yourself and your thoughts and feelings.

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#258682 - 10/28/08 10:45 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: sunwolf]
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Registered: 10/22/08
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I was wondering if acting out was a way to try to change the outcome of what originally happened long ago. It's like finding fire ants crawling on your leg and you brush them off. For the next few minutes you keep checking because you feel like they are crawling on you again but they aren't there when you check again. I don't know if this makes sense to anyone. Maybe it all has to do with being creatures of habit. Hopefully time will reveal it.


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#258775 - 10/29/08 11:36 AM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: nevragan]
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Registered: 09/20/08
Posts: 225
Loc: Indiana
The bottomline, I think, is that we should not blame ourselves for acting out...no matter the causes or what triggers it...thats something we need to learn to get over, the shame and guiltiness...


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#258786 - 10/29/08 12:13 PM Re: Acting Out...(might trigger) [Re: sunwolf]
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My acting out always feel good to me. It is the shame of lying to family that kills me. I wish I could just say I need to get f****d and it would be alright with the world. Hurt someone and ying I think is what brings me shame

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