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#25762 - 09/29/06 12:23 AM
Re: why cant i go back so sad
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Administrator Emeritus MaleSurvivor
Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
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Steve, No need to feel sorry bro. It's your post - say whatever you want and whatever you feel! As a child of the 60s I look back on that period with some nostalgia too. But I do that simply because I was taking no responsibility for my life and didn't care what happened to me. It was an almost totally care-free existence for awhile, and sure, I guess we all yearn for a bit of that again. That said, what kind of life was it for the people you name? Janis was a junkie, drunk on Southern Comfort most of the time, and an extremely unhappy woman with zero self-esteem and hardly any real friends. Morrison? - a violent alcoholic. Hendrix? - probably the best guitarist ever but a lost soul easily exploited by others and eventually a burnout on acid and speed. I think what we reacted to as teenagers and young men was the public image used to sell records and promote concerts. These people were all made to look blissfully happy and living the good life, but my guess is that most of them weren't. But enough of that - the illusion is one I still like to linger over sometimes ... before I get back to real life! I don't think people like our parents worked less hard than we do now, do you? But perhaps it's easier now to become disillusioned with our jobs and lives. If that's how you feel, can you do anything to change that? A different job, for example? Or less radical, try to make more time for yourself in your life. We DO have the right to live at least part of our lives for ourselves, as opposed to struggling 24/7 for everyone else. Much California Dreamin', Larry
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Nobody living can ever stop me As I go walking my freedom highway. Nobody living can make me turn back: This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)
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#25764 - 09/29/06 02:17 AM
Re: why cant i go back so sad
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Administrator Emeritus MaleSurvivor
Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
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Steve, No problem. You are stating an issue so the question is what to do about it. I LOVE to reminisce about the 60s and some of the stuff I did as a student and in San Francisco. I just wish my parents would stop showing my kids the photos! That's all fine, but it's not enough, is it? That's why I was asking about things you might think of to make your life feel like less of a dead routine. Believe me, it is possible and it can make all the difference in the world without too much hassle. Give it some thought. Much love, Larry
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Nobody living can ever stop me As I go walking my freedom highway. Nobody living can make me turn back: This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)
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#25766 - 09/29/06 11:01 AM
Re: why cant i go back so sad
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Member MaleSurvivor
Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6834
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...
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Hey, we live in a chaotic World that is almost out of control. Life in the 60s was so much less hectic.
How did we do without road rage, daily killings, people, not computers doing the work, where did it all go wrong.
Its OK to reminisce, I love it too,
ste
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#25767 - 09/29/06 04:34 PM
Re: why cant i go back so sad
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Member MaleSurvivor
Registered: 11/21/03
Posts: 758
Loc: ohio
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i guess i am too young to hold too much feeling for those days. born in 65, i was molested in 70 or 71. the most exciting part of my whole youth was playing sex games with one person or another. i really didnt develope awareness until the late 70's, and by then all the naivity had kind of died. the reality of everything came crashing down on our heads. i grew up in the 80's.
when faced with recovery and all the pain that brings, i think it is natural to long for your past. in my case, i look back like that on my youth when i was running and cycling. those are my glory days, days that i can overlook the pain i now know was lurking behind those fonde memories.
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#25768 - 09/29/06 06:42 PM
Re: why cant i go back so sad
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Member MaleSurvivor
Registered: 02/25/06
Posts: 74
Loc: New York
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Hey Steve --
I totally relate on the working to survive drudge . . . but change is always possible. Sometimes security is what we need, and sometimes we can take a risk.
I was born in the 70's by weed smoking, commune living hippies. They were really fucked up, totally negligent taking the kids to all their parties and letting run wild while they drank around the pool by day.
Lots of child-sex-abuse went on. One of my memories is during the day with my dad's friend and his son: while everyone was outside drinking rose in the sun.
So, I don't think of it as a conscious era, although that is strictly from my experience. I am sure there are kids being raised that way now.
There are a million ways to live a life: so remember -- now you have a 1000 choices!
Cheers,
Jonathon
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