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#254877 - 10/13/08 12:39 PM My Stress in Lincoln and in Life:
Trucker51 Offline
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The time has come for another stressful 1100 mile/1760km drive to Omaha and back. Another 32 hours of fast food and fast driving on a time schedule. Another quick night at the Days Inn. Another 32 hours away from my supporters and another 32 hour respite for those who I have managed to misunderstand or who find my writing to be less fun that it was originally intended.

Since this is a personal trip, I'm glad that gas is down under $3.00 per gallon too.

I'm due in court again tomorrow, trying again to save my career. The issue of my accident in January is still unresolved. Tomorrow is just a follow-up hearing and in all likelyhood the case will go to a jury trial in early November. It would be nice to have them offer a plea bargain that would let me continue my career but so far they haven't shown any inclination to. All for a minor sideswipe accident with $3500 damage and no injuries they want to end my career for 3 years. This is my worst accident in 29 years of driving professionally and the worst of my life that I've had more than minor fault in, of the five chargeable accidents that I have ever had since 1973, only three of which were driving commercially. I have in the neighborhood of 4 million miles of driving experience and have no experience doing anything else except giving financial and tax advice, and support on a couple of websites. I have close to $3500/month in bills and without being able to work in my field I'm basically bankrupt.

The last 9 months have been really trying with this court battle and my treatment for hepatitis-c and a throat cancer precursor called Barrett's esophagus at the same time, plus the question of my wife's parent's care and the problem with disposal of their house here in SW Denver. I'm glad that I have had the time to help out around here. And I am thankful for all of the support that I have received from you guys here.

So I guess that all of you will have to get along without me again. I'll be back tomorrow night so get ready, I guess.

Thanks again for the support that everyone here has given me.

Mark





Edited by Trucker51 (10/21/08 11:34 PM)
Edit Reason: Revise topic header
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#254880 - 10/13/08 12:47 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: Trucker51]
M3 Offline
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Loc: Central Ohio
Mark,

Take care, be safe and most of all GOOD LUCK!!!

Peace and love... you'll be in my thoughts...

Michael


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#254881 - 10/13/08 12:48 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: M3]
Trucker51 Offline
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Appreciate your thinking of me, Michael.

Mark

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#254883 - 10/13/08 12:55 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: Trucker51]
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Hi, Trucker51/Mark.
I'm rooting for a very favorable reaponse on your court battle. You sure don't need more sorrow on your plate. You have been a tremendes (sp) Help to me. Take care. You aren't alone. Peace and serenity and love.
Pete (Irishmoose)

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#254885 - 10/13/08 01:02 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: Trucker51]
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mark, my respect for you has just increased tremendously [it was very high already!] you managed to keep your personal stress and struggles under wraps while sharing sage advice, and good will with all of us here.

you have a special place in my head and heart and i wish nothing but the best for you, and hope things get resolved in your favor, as swiftly as possible.

your brother in recovery,

ron

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#254888 - 10/13/08 01:13 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: Sans Logos]
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In a way, Mark, I'm jealous...I wish I could drive as much as you do!

I hear you about going to court. The last hearing I went to my stomach was tied in knots. Hopefully you have a mouthpiece(read: lawyer) to do your talking for you!

Just so you know, I'll be thinking about you. All my hopes.

Brian

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#254907 - 10/13/08 03:36 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: LN3(SS)]
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Mark,

From one trucker to another keep your head up and the pedal down.
Have a safe trip and a good time with your wife.
Sorry to hear of your problems with the court and your health issues.
You are a good man and good friend.
Thanks for being there (i mean here).
Bro,your are in my prayers and my thoughts.

Mike

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-Robert Johnson-

"IT ought never be forgotten that the past is the parent of the future" John C. Calhoun

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#256703 - 10/21/08 02:04 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: michael banks]
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Mark,

What happened? Been worried... maybe you posted somewhere else...

Peace and love brother...

Michael


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#256709 - 10/21/08 03:11 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: M3]
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Mark,

Sorry to hear about what you are having to deal with. Have a safe road trip. We will all be here for you.

Ken

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#256737 - 10/21/08 06:27 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: KENKEN]
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My jury trial starts Monday the 27th at 9:30 AM Central time in Lincoln, NE. I think that I have a pretty good chance of getting a fair deal that would let me continue my career. I have top-notch legal representation and a local expert witness with more than 30 years of experience in the trucking industry and in driver-training and safety supervision.

It has been a bit difficult because everywhere else that I have ever had trouble before, they were willing to plea bargain it down. In Lincoln you either plead guilty or go to trial. It will be the first time that I have ever not taken a plea bargain and gone to court. It is really hard having my future entirely in someone else's hands and the uncertainty has been a bit tough for my wife and I over this year.

I guess that we will find out come next Monday which direction that we are heading in after 10 months of waiting. On another note, my first attempt at medical treatment for hepatitis-c has been a failure. My viral load came down by 90% in the first two months of treatment then the decline levelled-out and started coming back up. I increased my dosage of meds but that only stabilized me at a higher level. Currently my hep-c liver viral load is down by 80% from where it was in February and is stable. I can try again when various blood cell counts improve.

Years ago either of these setbacks would have thrown me right off of the deep end. Instead of endlessly worrying about the what if's, when I found this site I decided to try to give something back with all of the extra time that I had been given. It may be that my work here helped to distract me away from obcessing about my problems but it also helped me a lot hearing the thanks that I have received from many people here. Given my level of progress in my own recovery, I've been glad to try to help mentor people, something that I could have really used earlier in my own recovery, and something that I benefitted greatly from in my later recovery. 10 years ago I had a Hazelden grad who was 7 years ahead of me in his own recovery from his own CSA step in and help me find my way. My time here has in some respects been trying to pay Jeff back.

Thanks a lot for letting me help as much as I have been able to so far, and thanks a lot in advance for your support in my time of need. My wife and I have already begun to explore other options, one of which is changing majors and finishing my degree, possibly as an LCSW. I have 79 college credits towards a currently worthless field with a social work and urban sociology core. That is one possibility along with her idea for starting an adult hot-tub cabin resort in the mountains here. I hadn't planned on changing careers at age 51 but as I have aged it has become harder and harder to keep up with the younger drivers in my field. Heading in a different direction might not be the worst thing healthwise either.

Financially we are a little tight but I do have about $2000/month in other income outside of work, and my wife works too, so we're not hurting really badly yet. We do have mid-five figure retirement savings and maybe $70K-$80K in home equity if we were to be able to sell now, along with some other investments. I'll sure be glad when it is over so I can concentrate on what is possible again, rather than continuously worrying about what might not be possible.

Thanks again for thinking of my wife and I in our time of need.

Mark

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#256779 - 10/21/08 08:06 PM Re: Another stressful drive: [Re: Trucker51]
DanM Offline
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Registered: 11/09/07
Posts: 540
Loc: So. California
Mark,

I hope things workout for you in court. I know you are under a lot of duress, yet you are handling it with such grace. I have appreciated and valued your postings and insight into the healing process. You have provided a tremendous amount of support for many of us here. Hopefully we can provide the same to you in your time of need.

Dan


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#256866 - 10/21/08 11:36 PM My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: DanM]
Trucker51 Offline
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Thanks Dan,

Mark



Edited by Trucker51 (10/21/08 11:37 PM)
Edit Reason: Revise topic header
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#256869 - 10/21/08 11:52 PM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: Trucker51]
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Registered: 02/26/08
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Mark,

You have done an awesome job here. You are exemplary in your struggle with issues you have overcome. Well done, bro. Keep up the good fight.


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#256910 - 10/22/08 06:06 AM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: pufferfish]
Trucker51 Offline
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Appreciate it, Allen. I'm still trying to have hope.

Mark

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#256936 - 10/22/08 09:11 AM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: Trucker51]
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Registered: 09/03/08
Posts: 1901
Loc: Peterborough, Ontario, Canada
Mark:

I just learned of these recent issues and want to wish you all the best. You deserve a good outcome because of all the good you have either directly, or indirectly facilitated around here.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for ya!

Jim

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#257016 - 10/22/08 04:17 PM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: Geeders]
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Thanks Jim, my fingers are getting raw already.

Mark

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#257047 - 10/22/08 08:11 PM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: Trucker51]
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Mark,

Sorry I am so late to this one. All the best of luck in that trial. Their insistence on plead guilty or go to trial seems excessive for someone with your record.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#257148 - 10/23/08 09:43 AM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: roadrunner]
Trucker51 Offline
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That is just the way they do it for everyone in Lincoln. I have to wonder if it doesn't have something to do with the University of Nebraska's Law College. Maybe it is kind of like a lecture hall or that is where all their grads get some experience. Three more days until I've got to leave to drive there. Gas is down to $2.50 a gallon now and the barrel price is down to $67 today, so gas will drop some more by then hopefully. My pickup gets 18-19 miles per gallon and it is 480 miles each way. At least I can still get a room at a Days Inn there on a trucker rate. It is only $35/night if you are a trucker there.

Thanks again, Larry,

Mark

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#257150 - 10/23/08 10:01 AM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: Trucker51]
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Loc: TEXAS
Trucker51/Mark.
Again I wish you well on your court date, and a favorable answer to your trucking career. I wouldn't let those young guys get to me, hell how many miles do they have? Why give up something you enjoy doing? As long as you are still enjoying it. You have been a tremendious help to this old guy. If the man upstairs listens to me, I'll try and put in a good word for ya. Heal well Mark. You've got my love and prayers.
Pete (Irishmoose)

_________________________
Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
____________________________________________________________
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.


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#257226 - 10/23/08 04:11 PM Re: My Stress in Lincoln and in Life: [Re: petercorbett]
Trucker51 Offline
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Thanks Peter. I've been so busy on here I've hardly had time to worry this week. I guess this particular stress should end Monday, then I can get on with planning the rest of my life instead of worrying about what might not be possible.

Thanks again,

Mark

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