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#253471 - 10/07/08 08:57 PM WHAT THE HELL?
OKIE MIKE Offline
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Registered: 02/13/04
Posts: 982
Loc: HULBERT OK
Whay the hell ? I have been seeing a theropst for sense 2001 at the Veterans Hospital In Muskogee. I REAPEDALY Asked about a Military Sexual Trama group. They have told me that there is a group but it is limited to female only. They do not have a group for males . I found out that there are almost 20,000 military sexula trama victoms that are currently being councled in the VA system . You cant honestly tell me that I am the only Male That is being councled in Muskogee
I started looking on the internet for help.
I found Greg Helle the auther of "A Walk in Hell" this is a book about a Vet-Nam veteran that was raped while in The U.S.Army. I also was raped while I was in the Army.
Through him I found about Male Survivors And I have ben here for several years.I have used this group for the support. Because The VA said that they had no group for male rape victoms.
I have ben fighting to have my PTSD rateing rased above 30%
Reacently I recieved a Denial letter that said that one of the reasons fo the dinial was that I was useing a Male sexual trama group that is outside of the VA system.
They told me that they dod not have a Male sexual trama group. So I found help where I could.
I also found out on MY OWN that a male sexual trama inpatent program DOES exist within the VA system.
I have filed a disagrement through the DAV
There is no reasom fo this . the Va should tell veterans what help is avadable to them .

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MICHAEL

"I HAD NO SHOES THEN I SAW A MAN THAT HAD NO FEET"

"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"

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#253473 - 10/07/08 09:05 PM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: OKIE MIKE]
Marinan Offline
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Registered: 07/03/07
Posts: 329
I'm so sorry Mike. \:\( Thank you for being in our service.


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#253565 - 10/08/08 10:02 AM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: Marinan]
M3 Offline
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Registered: 09/04/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
Yeah Mike, I hate the way we treat our Vets.


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#253605 - 10/08/08 02:02 PM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: M3]
OKIE MIKE Offline
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Registered: 02/13/04
Posts: 982
Loc: HULBERT OK
There is something wrong with a system that punishes a Veteran for seeking help. When they do not offer help in the VA system. So I looked for help where I could find it.
I know that I am not the only Male Veteran, that was raped while serving His country . Why do they refuse to help male rape victoms?

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"I HAD NO SHOES THEN I SAW A MAN THAT HAD NO FEET"

"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"

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#253630 - 10/08/08 02:57 PM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: OKIE MIKE]
LN3(SS) Offline
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Registered: 06/20/08
Posts: 486
Loc: MD
Mike,

If you don't trust the DAV to do all the legwork, the National Veterans Legal Service Project puts out a thing called the "Veterans Benefit Manual". It's the same book that is used to train your NSO and is chock full of info on how to appeal your claim. It costs $135 plus S&H.

Also, Mic Hunter wrote a book called "Honor Betrayed: Sexual Abuse In Anerica's Military". The book was highly triggering for me, but it might be of comfort to you. I dunno. You can order that through Barnes & Noble.

Make sure you get your counselor to sign a statement as to what she has been advising you to what your treatment options are there. You WILL be needing that!

The whole name of the game when dealing with the Government is CYA. Paper works wonders when doing so. You got a vet here that will gladly help you.

Brian

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"When we go into battle, I will be the first to set foot on the field, and I will be the last to step off, and I will leave no one behind. Dead, or alive, we will all come home together." LTG Hal Moore, Jr., USA (Ret.)

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#253687 - 10/08/08 06:24 PM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: LN3(SS)]
blueshift Offline
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Registered: 01/21/08
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I haven't heard a good thing about the VA yet! They don't seem to be sufficient at all to the demand they are supposed to meet. From all I've heard it doesn't surprise me that they are like this with male abuse victims. Eventually maybe the news will come around to them that there actually are male rape victims.


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#253811 - 10/09/08 02:23 AM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: blueshift]
OKIE MIKE Offline
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Registered: 02/13/04
Posts: 982
Loc: HULBERT OK
Blue shift , Unfortunately the VA is verry understafed.Rite now they are dealing with veterans that are returning from Iraq & Afghanistan. They are dealing with Combat trama. and male sexual trama is a low priority . Because they are still tring to sweep people like me under the rug . But I am like a stinking peice of Shit that will not go away . Until They treat Male victoms the same as female victoms. I am going to keep makeing a big stink.

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MICHAEL

"I HAD NO SHOES THEN I SAW A MAN THAT HAD NO FEET"

"All I can do is be me, whoever that is"

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#253814 - 10/09/08 02:57 AM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: OKIE MIKE]
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Registered: 06/27/08
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Loc: Sea Isle City, NJ
Interesting facts about the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier and the Sentinels of the Third United States Infantry Regiment "Old Guard"
How many steps does the guard take during his walk across the tomb of the Unknowns and why?
21 steps. It alludes to the twenty-one gun salute, which is the highest honor given any military or foreign dignitary.

How long does he hesitate after his about face to begin his return walk and why?
21 seconds, for the same reason as answer number 1.

Why are his gloves wet?
His gloves are moistened to prevent his losing his grip on the rifle.

Does he carry his rifle on the same shoulder all the time, and if not, why not?
No, he carries the rifle on the shoulder away from the tomb. After his march across the path, he executes an about face and moves the rifle to the outside shoulder.

How often are the guards changed?
Guards are changed every thirty minutes, twenty-four hours a day, 365 days a year.

6. What are the physical traits of the guard limited to?
For a person to apply for guard duty at the tomb, he must be between 5' 10" and 6' 2" tall and his waist size cannot exceed 30".

Other requirements of the Guard:
They must commit 2 years of life to guard the tomb, live in a barracks under the tomb, and cannot drink any alcohol on or off duty FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES. They cannot swear in public FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES and cannot disgrace the uniform {fighting} or the tomb in any way.

After TWO YEARS, the guard is given a wreath pin that is worn on their lapel signifying they served as guard of the tomb. There are only 400 presently worn. The guard must obey these rules for the rest of their lives or give up the wreath pin.

The shoes are specially made with very thick soles to keep the heat and cold from their feet. There are metal heel plates that extend to the top of the shoe in order to make the loud click as they come to a halt. There are no wrinkles, folds or lint on the uniform. Guards dress for duty in front of a full-length mirror.

The first SIX MONTHS of duty a guard cannot talk to anyone, nor watch TV. All off duty time is spent studying the 175 notable people laid to rest in Arlington National Cemetery. A guard must memorize who they are and where they are interred. Among the notables are: President Taft, Joe E. Lewis {the boxer} and Medal of Honor winner Audie Murphy, {the most decorated soldier of WWII} of Hollywood fame. Every guard spends FIVE HOURS A DAY getting his uniforms ready for guard duty.

The Sentinel's Creed:
My dedication to this sacred duty is total and wholehearted. In the responsibility bestowed on me never will I falter. And with dignity and perseverance my standard will remain perfection. Through the years of diligence and praise and the discomfort of the elements, I will walk my tour in humble reverence to the best of my ability. It is he who commands the respect I protect. His bravery that made us so proud. Surrounded by well meaning crowds by day alone in the thoughtful peace of night, this soldier will in honored glory rest under my eternal vigilance.
More Interesting facts about the Tomb of the Unknowns itself:
The marble for the Tomb of the Unknowns was furnished by the Vermont Marble Company of Danby, Vt. The marble is the finest and whitest of American marble, quarried from the Yule Marble Quarry located near Marble, Colorado and is called Yule Marble. The Marble for the Lincoln memorial and other famous buildings was also quarried there.

The Tomb consists of seven pieces of rectangular marble: Four pieces in sub base; weight - 15 tons; One piece in base or plinth; weight - 16 tons; One piece in die; weight - 36 tons; One piece in cap; weight - 12 tons; Carved on the East side (the front of the Tomb, which faces Washington, D.C.) is a composite of three figures, commemorative of the spirit of the Allies of World War I.

In the center of the panel stands Victory (female).

On the right side, a male figure symbolizes Valor.

On the left side stands Peace, with her palm branch to reward the devotion and sacrifice that went with courage to make the cause of righteousness triumphant.

The north and south sides are divided into three panels by Doric pilasters. In each panel is an inverted wreath.

On the west, or rear, panel (facing the Amphitheater) is inscribed:

HERE RESTS IN HONORED GLORY AN AMERICAN SOLDIER KNOWN BUT TO GOD

The first Tomb of the Unknown Soldier was a sub base and a base or plinth. It was slightly smaller than the present base. This was torn away when the present Tomb was started Aug. 27, 1931. The Tomb was completed and the area opened to the public 9:15 a.m. April 9, 1932, without any ceremony.

Cost of the Tomb: $48,000 Sculptor: Thomas Hudson Jones Architect: Lorimer Rich Contractors: Hagerman & Harris, New York City In>
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#253856 - 10/09/08 09:44 AM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: Stretch73]
Hauser Offline
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Registered: 11/12/05
Posts: 2962
Loc: United States
Hi again Mike.

Have you considered writing your representative? I certainly don't believe that you would receive just another form letter if you share your story with him/her.

Many reforms in every social program got it's start from someone that wrote their representative or senator and asked them to consider their position or concern.

Just a thought...........


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#253865 - 10/09/08 10:58 AM Re: WHAT THE HELL? [Re: Hauser]
M3 Offline
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Registered: 09/04/07
Posts: 1392
Loc: Central Ohio
GOOD IDEA ALAN!!!

Use your representatives in Washington, especially if one of them is a veteran, to get the wheels-a-turning...


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