This thread was inspired by AndyJB
There are "good" & "bad" apologies, "languages" of apology & we all have our preferences too.
Some of us need a simple admission of wrong doing.
Some of us need a detailed inventory of every wrong action.
Some of us need to hear the other person aknowledge our feelings or experience in ways that are meaningful to us.
Some of us need to hear & feel genuine remorse.
Some of us need reassurance that it will never happen again & what the consequences will be if it does.
Some of us need restitution as in financially or spiritually or even criminally.
Think back to the last time someone apologized to you successfully & see if any of this resonates.
Or to the last time you apologized & whether any of these were involved to a degree.
There's a great book on "Languages of Apology"
for anyone interested. (Most public libraries carry it as well)