I would just say to you that you are enough and good enough just as you are! You owe nothing to people who want you to reinvent yourself to suit them. Perhaps they don't realize how they hurt you when they make such demands, but the hurt is there nonetheless.
Just tell them this is it - 100% Andrei, take it or leave it and you're not prepared to discuss the matter in any other terms.
Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me. (Woody Guthrie)