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#250589 - 09/22/08 03:30 PM Speaking to the hurt boy
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I have a scrap-book and i was thinking of taking some room to write to speak to little me, the part of me that hurts and is scared, what would you say to your little self to make him feel better?


Speaking to the hurt boy


It was not your fault

You have nothing to be ashamed of

You deserved better

Somebody should have helped you

You are not broken

I will hold you in my arms and nobody will hurt you

I will protect you at night when the sun goes down

Together, hand-in-hand, I will not leave you behind hurting- You will not be abandoned or ignored, I will care for you and make sure you have the things you want and deserve

You are not dirty

You are not less

You were brave and I love you and I am proud of you


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"...until lambs become lions"

I love you, little lewis, and i will never leave you. We are the same. You brighten my day, and i will make sure that i brighten yours. Hugs and kisses.


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#250590 - 09/22/08 03:47 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: king tut]
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That is a great response Lewis. I wrote a reply to your forgiveness topic that you might not understand just yet, but I have great hope that eventually you will understand and enjoy the great freedom that completing the last step of recovery brings.

Mark

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#250597 - 09/22/08 04:02 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: king tut]
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I tried to read this post. It hurt too much. I'll try again at some point.Sorry.I'm just not ready for it yet.


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#250611 - 09/22/08 05:20 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: blueshift]
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Beautiful Lewis!

Are you able to let Little Lewis reply to these messages?


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#250614 - 09/22/08 05:46 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: M3]
king tut Offline
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Originally Posted By: M3

Are you able to let Little Lewis reply to these messages?


I didn't think about that, that is a really good point thanks, i think i will work on that

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"...until lambs become lions"

I love you, little lewis, and i will never leave you. We are the same. You brighten my day, and i will make sure that i brighten yours. Hugs and kisses.


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#250618 - 09/22/08 06:07 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: king tut]
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I think that would be incredibly insightful for you. My T suggests that if you are having trouble, hold a crayon in your non-writing hand for Little Lewis' writing. Don't pressure it, but I think if you are alone one evening and give Little Lewis a chance to read these, he will have a lot to say.

((Lewis))

Michael


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#250619 - 09/22/08 06:15 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: M3]
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i like that idea! i actually found some crayons the other day and i couldn't resist the impulse and had to give them a go, just scribbling, but i threw them out because i was having a tidy out and i havent got room to store things, but i think i should have more in one of my drawers or under my bed, or anything to let me get in touch would be good

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"...until lambs become lions"

I love you, little lewis, and i will never leave you. We are the same. You brighten my day, and i will make sure that i brighten yours. Hugs and kisses.


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#250630 - 09/22/08 08:15 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: king tut]
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Lewis,

What a great thing to do, to say to read, to hear, I am just learning to be nice to the little boy instead of trying to banish him.

Very powerfull, very beutiful, wouldn't be great if all of us had had a great guy like you telling us these things when we were hurting.

My honor, respect and love

Dave


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#250644 - 09/22/08 09:11 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: kutcher]
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Hi again Lewis.

You got me thinking. Whenever you (or anyone) writes to your little-self, I notice that I'm not one to ever do that. Is that because we're just different? I don't know. In fact, I seem to think in opposite extremes.

Sometimes I feel like saying "Drop this inner-child down a well"............. lol, is that bad?

Lewis? Do you really FEEL what you're saying here in this post? Or are you trying to grind it into your brain that this is what you deserve/deserved, but don't yet FEEL it? Where ARE you emotionally right now when you think about yourself at such a young age?


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#250906 - 09/24/08 01:57 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: Hauser]
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beautiful expressed..amde me cry but i find it beautiful...:)


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#250936 - 09/24/08 07:21 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: sunwolf]
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Lewis,

What a great way to communicate to Little Lewis. That's exactly the sort of thing he needs to hear from you. I especially like the part where you tell him you're proud of him. You should be! He got you through a terrible situation even though he was frightened and all alone.

Much love,
Larry

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As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#250965 - 09/24/08 08:51 PM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: Hauser]
king tut Offline
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Originally Posted By: Hauser
Hi again Lewis.

You got me thinking. Whenever you (or anyone) writes to your little-self, I notice that I'm not one to ever do that. Is that because we're just different? I don't know. In fact, I seem to think in opposite extremes.

Sometimes I feel like saying "Drop this inner-child down a well"............. lol, is that bad?

Lewis? Do you really FEEL what you're saying here in this post? Or are you trying to grind it into your brain that this is what you deserve/deserved, but don't yet FEEL it? Where ARE you emotionally right now when you think about yourself at such a young age?


i think i do believe all of that, i do, yes, as me now i think i believe it both on an intellectual and an emotional level, but when i think back and with all of those intense feelings and unanswered questions that made me feel so bad about myself and alone and worthless then that part of myself, back then, didn't believe the things i believe now, and that is still part of me, those unprocessed unresolved things, and nobody told me those things then and so i have to say it now. Yes the hurt that i felt then doesn't just go away because i am older and that is why i like to speak to myself through this idea of talking to little me, because beyond the reason of my older brain, that deeper and hurting part of me needs to be reached and given the answers that i was never given, told the things that i wanted to be told. Otherwise i will always feel myself sinking into my bed at night frightened and worthless.

I'm not sure why you don't like to connect to your younger self, but i think that that is an important realisation that you just made, maybe you should think about the reasons why you don't want to talk to that part of yourself, maybe you still hold guilt or shame or something.

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"...until lambs become lions"

I love you, little lewis, and i will never leave you. We are the same. You brighten my day, and i will make sure that i brighten yours. Hugs and kisses.


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#251420 - 09/27/08 10:23 AM Re: Speaking to the hurt boy [Re: king tut]
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Hi King tut.
Hey you made my day with that speaking to that hurt boy, I'm going to print it out and when me and that boy crying inside get tied up in knots together I'm going to pull it out and just meditate on it and maybe we'll get a bit of serenity. Heal well my friend.
Pete

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