I think you articulated that pretty well.
I used to get very frustrated at folks who couldn't solve their own problems. This was particularly strong early on in dealing with my CSA - before I sought therapy. I felt that my problems were so much more horrendous than their simple problem of a conflicting schedule with their girlfriend or a petty fight with their parents. I'd see people fall to pieces over these things and I'd just want to scream at them to "Grow the F*CK up and deal with it - others have it much worse off than you." But I came to realize that most people develop their coping strategies based on watching their families. If they have parent with poor coping strategies, these people probably need to be taught better strategies than they are equipped with.
You and I may have had an advantage that we either didn't have a model to rely upon, or we realized that the person/people that we should be modeling were really screwed up and sought to figure it out for ourselves. In the few brief periods of time we had a TV while I was growing up, I used to watch to see how families were REALLY supposed to be like and I would try to model my behavior after those characters (Richie Cunningham from Happy Days for example). It still left me screwed up, but it was the best option a little boy thought he had.
Most of the people who have turned to drugs and alcohol who are survivors did so in their teens, long before they were really capable of making that decision with full understanding and consent. Addiction or dependency sets in early and making that decision as an adult while dependent and dealing with CSA issues becomes a paramount issue to tackle.
Everyone has their own special talents and skills - your's seems to be your mental and emotional fortitude. Your story, your experiences and your problem solving strategies may be invaluable to others on this site. And others on this site may have something to offer you back - a touching poem, a photo that they've drawn that you connect with, anything - because that is what their special talent is.
I've found some amazing people on this site, and honestly, after reading your story, you are one of those amazing people. We are lucky to be alive. We have a world that needs educated. We have brothers that need our assistance and brother whom can help use learn to not just survive, but thrive.
Ok, I'm getting a little carried away....
but this is something I'm very passionate about.
Josef, I'm glad you found this site. Thank you for sharing and I hope you will hang around and share your strength with others, and in return, become stronger.
Peace and love...