I tihnk i am bisexual..but i wonder if it has smoething to do with my childhood abuse...am still very consfused about this

This too is another common early recovery issue. We are often confused especially in our late teens and into our 20s, when we have suffered a bunch of abuse at the hands of male abusers if we happened to orgasm as a result. Remember, you were a kid that was used for someone else's pleasure and it wasn't your fault. The male organ responds to stimulus, even abusive stimulus, which is somewhat cunfusing to many victims. You will work through this issue in therapy too.

Maybe someone else would be able to offer more perspective on this issue.

Have hope, with a lot of effort and our support, recovery is possible.

Mark

sunwolf,

Mark is correct, sexual identity confusion is very common among survivors. There is a forum on this site dedicated to this: Sexual Identity Issues. You can find posts of others going through the same thing and get help from moderators in the forum. (It may be better to post this message there too.)

We hear you when you say it is confusing. It IS VERY confusing. We'll be here to listen and support you as brothers on this journey of recovery.

Peace and love...

Michael

I have always thougt I was Bi . I just redently came to terms with the fact I want men not women in bed. I had sex with my older brother from the time I was 7. I know this was wrong of him and not my fault but it has shaped my life. I am married and love my wife but I also love men. How is it possible to change what was done to me 49 yrs ago. I don't want to feel this way.

you dont have to change...its ok to be bi and have all those sexual desires...no matter the root of it..if you feel ok than its ok

Davesc:

I know where you're coming from. I'm still very confused. Wish I had advice; the best I can say is, you're not alone in this...this is actually a place where (FINALLY!!!) someone understands.

Peace,

FT

Davesc & FT:

I too understand what you are say and feeling.

This is my problem too. I dont understand how I can be attracted to woman and men. It's confusing to me. But on top of that I let it slip out that I was abuse. This co worker is always pushing my buttons, if you no what i mean, which make me more confuse. I had a little crush on him. I wonder if this will never end. i live in deniel for years. but now it in my face every day. i can just go numb when it come to sex. but I am not along is comforting to me.

Dusty42 has deleted this message. I no longer feel safe here.

why are you feeling tored appart? if you like them is ok...love is love no matter what...take it easy and enjoy the feeling...