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#24786 - 10/19/03 07:16 AM 'The four agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz
Leosha Offline
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Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
I just wished to share something I am reading right now. It is a book more of like philosophy of life, not specific of abuse or healing. But how it is written, I find it is comforting at me, and makes good sense at me. I would just like to share a little of the 'agreements' themselves here.

1. Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you will not be a victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can so you can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always do your best.
Your best will change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy, as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.


See how I mean? The wording, the ideals, they are so simple, to me, to understand. I know that they are not so simple in practice. Always, we will take care, feeling responsible for feelings of others. Always, we will misunderstand, and take things personal, and we will make assumptions. But this is what I am reading now, thanks to a good friend, and this is what I work at now. I just wished to share it here.

leosha

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"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

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#24787 - 10/19/03 04:06 PM Re: 'The four agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz
FlyWM Offline
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Registered: 09/14/03
Posts: 322
Loc: Michigan
Thank you for sharing that buddy, it sounds like a book I should read, I think I may pick up a copy of it. These ideals are things to work at, and it is difficult as you said, but if we can work at it that is enough, as on of the ideals says, just do your best.

Scott

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Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible in not a declaration, it's a dare.

--Adidas

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#24788 - 10/19/03 04:55 PM Re: 'The four agreements' by Don Miguel Ruiz
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
An old friend of mine once gave me some advice when I was much younger.

1. Be polite and respect others.

2. Be of good moral character and show concern for those in trouble.

3. Be true to your friends in any situation

4. Be the best that you Can be for yourself.

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