Disclosure can be a scary thing... especially if it is not received well... case in point. Sorry that you have experienced the ultimate pain... the abuse is bad enough, but to have the ones that we trust, dismiss our claims is even worse. When we get the courage to "finally tell" and the door is slammed in our face we have a tendency to chuck it all and hide... i found this recently on a post and have pasted it here for u. hope this helps some, although it will not take away your pain... realize that we are here with outstretched arms for you.
"...disclosure can go horribly wrong, especially when you disclose to a person you believe will be there for you and then they fail, but itís their failure, not yours. When a survivor discloses he opens the opportunity (1) for himself to begin or continue healing and (2) to educate the ignorant, but educatable person who loves and cares for him.
The pitfalls of disclosure are there, they should be discussed and prepared for. Yelling a disclosure from the mountain tops may not be a good idea, and posting it here on MS is not that, but continuing to suffer in silence definitely is NOT. I have shared my story here and have had overwhelming support... i hope that you can find the same... BUT DON'T WAIT!"[i][/i]
Edited by conflicted (08/25/08 12:00 PM)