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#243943 - 08/11/08 04:19 PM Should I Feel Guilty?
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Registered: 07/12/06
Posts: 54
Loc: St Louis, MO
I've been working with a psychiatrist as therapist for the past two years. She has been great with medication and PTSD issues, and is a very good listener, but lately I've felt stagnant. When I lived in Nashville, I received therapy from the Nashville Rape and Sexual Abuse Center, but haven't found anything in St Louis that caters to male "survivors". Recently, I learned of a trauma center at the University of Missouri, made a call, and found out they were doing a couple of studies that I would qualify for, so I made an appointment for initial assessment.

Maybe I'm being ridiculous, but I feel like I'm "cheating" on my psychiatrist. Should I tell her what I'm doing? Should I feel guilty? I hate confrontation, so I'm reluctant to say anything. I'm planning on going to a Weekend of Recovery, and I felt guilty telling her about that too, so presented it passively, like I was seeking her permission to go.

Don't misunderstand, she has done nothing to cause me to feel this way. she's always been supportive.

How do I deal with these feelings?

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#243945 - 08/11/08 04:39 PM Re: Should I Feel Guilty? [Re: Syntaxed]
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Registered: 06/20/08
Posts: 486
Loc: MD
Chris,

There is nothing wrong with utilizing all services available to you. I told my T about my decision to go to the WoR and, although I didn't exactly receive the warmest response, I have to take responsibility for my own healing.

I would suggest, however, that you tell your psychiatrist what you are doing, and why. If she has been supportive, then you have nothing to fear. But she must know what you are and aren't doing if she is to properly help you.

I have MAJOR trust issues with mental health professionals. I don't trust them very much because of what happened to me at their hands. But, as I have been reminded on here, they are people too. Give her the chance to support you in this.

Brian

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"When we go into battle, I will be the first to set foot on the field, and I will be the last to step off, and I will leave no one behind. Dead, or alive, we will all come home together." LTG Hal Moore, Jr., USA (Ret.)

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#243950 - 08/11/08 05:10 PM Re: Should I Feel Guilty? [Re: LN3(SS)]
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Registered: 05/14/08
Posts: 408
Loc: Salt Lake City Ut
Chris - I believe that we need to use many sources for healing. Share what you have learned with your T from other souces along with books, and things you've come up with by yourself. It take many things to heal including being here in MS Land. Truth is found in more than one place. Truth is truth and when we are led to it, then it is wonderful. I currently go to the Trauma Center here and there is a world of difference between working with Trauma specialists and some therapists. There's a different approach and focus.

Lance


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#243951 - 08/11/08 05:11 PM Re: Should I Feel Guilty? [Re: LN3(SS)]
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Chris,

First off, please don't feel guilty! I feel you should tell your psychiatrist/therapist what you plan on doing. If she is supportive as you say, she will be 100% behind you for seeking additional help.

My therapist was very supportive of me when I went to WOR this spring. I also am in a support group that meets every week. Sometimes I ask follow up questions from my group. I think we all are working together for my GOOD.

I am proud of you for doing what you are doing.

Ken

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#243959 - 08/11/08 05:41 PM Re: Should I Feel Guilty? [Re: KENKEN]
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Registered: 05/14/08
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Loc: Salt Lake City Ut
LIFE'S TOO SHORT FOR GUILT


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#243960 - 08/11/08 05:42 PM Re: Should I Feel Guilty? [Re: Syntaxed]
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Registered: 05/31/03
Posts: 5791
Loc: in my own world in pittsburgh,...
aahhh, chris i would be more concerned about why this question was even raised within you. you are in charge of your insides, not someone on your outside. we are just guideposts. who you determine to lead and support you ultimately, and unapologetically, is up to you. it could be that maybe you see your therapist as a trust mentor, and don't want them to think badly of you for not seeking their permission, or for seeming disloyal to them. but that's ok, they are grownups and they can take rejection!

ron

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