Doug, you say, "About all I'm good 4 most of the time is sympathy."
One of my favorite songs has this line in it:
"Donít read me pointless poems, friend
Donít diagnose, donít condescend,
Though you may be right to disagree
I need someone to weep with me."
Sometimes the best and most powerful thing we can do for someone is just listen, and give our sympathy. Sometimes really what we need, is to just have someone to sit and weep with us.
Also, I've got a pair of those "horrible colored glasses" too. Sucks when I find myself wearing them once again.