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#243677 - 08/10/08 04:36 AM feel pathetic
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Registered: 01/21/08
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I wish I was much stronger emotionally than I am. Right now I just don't respond to all the posts I would like to because I just feel like I have nothing to offer..I mean I'm in the same boat with a lot of it and I don't know the answers either. About all I'm good 4 most of the time is sympathy.

I could read more of the stories than I do. It's just so hard to deal with the triggers. I'm sure I could probably handle reading more than I do though. I just feel like I'm lousy support when I have received such great support from so many here.

Doug


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#243680 - 08/10/08 05:24 AM Re: feel pathetic [Re: blueshift]
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that's ok doug. just do the best you can. i am satisfied with simply knowing ole blueshift is around and hanging in here with the rest of us.

ron

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#243807 - 08/10/08 07:13 PM Re: feel pathetic [Re: Sans Logos]
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You're just fine. Don't put another expectation on yourself. Often I don't know what to say to a post. I have to log off and then later an idea will come to me.

Puffer


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#243822 - 08/10/08 09:26 PM Re: feel pathetic [Re: pufferfish]
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Registered: 06/12/08
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Doug,

The best support we can offer others.
Is to be honest with where we are at.
So they will know that they are not alone.
The answers are for each of us to find.

mike

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#243832 - 08/10/08 10:50 PM Re: feel pathetic [Re: michael banks]
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I guess I was just freaking out. I do that a lot. Get to thinking about how horrible I am. Start to look at my self through horrible colored glasses. lol
Doug


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#243881 - 08/11/08 10:33 AM Re: feel pathetic [Re: blueshift]
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Registered: 01/27/08
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Doug, you say, "About all I'm good 4 most of the time is sympathy."

One of my favorite songs has this line in it:

"Donít read me pointless poems, friend
Donít diagnose, donít condescend,
Though you may be right to disagree
I need someone to weep with me."

Sometimes the best and most powerful thing we can do for someone is just listen, and give our sympathy. Sometimes really what we need, is to just have someone to sit and weep with us.

Also, I've got a pair of those "horrible colored glasses" too. Sucks when I find myself wearing them once again.


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