Hey my man:
Welcome to MS. You have taken a difficult step and shared what is going on in your life. Trust is a huge issue that all of us in our shared community have had to struggle with. Thanks for giving us your trust and I am sure that you will find most of the guys on here to be a caring and supportive bunch of guys. We care deeply when one of our members is hurting and all of us would be willing to stand with you if you asked us too.
Touch is another huge issue for those of us in recovery. Sorry to hear about what your dad is doing to you. If I was there I would make sure that it didn't happen again. I don't know your age, but it sounds like you might still be fairly young. There will never be a better time to begin to deal with these issues than right now. The sooner that you start, the sooner that you can leave your problems behind and get on with a more-normal life. It would be very wrong of your mother to share any of your history in an abusive manner with anyone.
What has happened isn't your fault, though what happened will hound your every move if it isn't dealt with. This site is a great place to begin anonymously. Are you seeing a therapist yet? Are you in college yet? Many colleges offer low- or no- cost counseling in-house. Cleveland State University in Cleveland, OH offers no-cost counseling for full-time students and there is a long-standing group there that deals with these types of issues.
There is hope, my man. You are welcome to discuss any issue with me anytime that I am on.
If you are underage (under 17 or 18), what your mom's girlfriend did and what your dad is doing could be considered improper, abusive, and possibly illegal too. Do you need our help to make the abuse stop? If so, please tell us, and our senior staff members will take the appropriate steps to help you.
"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark