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#241453 - 07/30/08 10:39 PM reaching out
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Edited by MarkK (08/02/08 04:01 PM)

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#241471 - 07/30/08 11:48 PM Re: reaching out [Re: MarkK]
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That is what life is all about, how you pick yourself up after you get knocked down.

You looked much happier on that other cliff hanging on to the tree stump.

Why not take a few steps back and think about trying it again.

I know that it isn't easy, but I know that you have it in you.

Mark

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#241708 - 08/01/08 09:52 AM Re: reaching out [Re: Trucker51]
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Mark,

I don't think anyone can tell another guy how he should handle this kind of situation. I can just say how I have coped.

What helps me is to figure that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, that's no reflection on me. And I know sometimes I have read disaster and rejection into a situation when in fact it wasn't as bad as I thought. Those old tapes playing in my head could really do a number on me.

But still, it's a risk, I know. I just tell myself I'd rather get hurt occasionally and have a few close friends, rather than remain unscathed but isolated. I did the isolation bit all through high school, and I don't think I was ever so unhappy as I was then.

Much love,
Larry

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Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
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#241839 - 08/01/08 07:45 PM Re: reaching out [Re: roadrunner]
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Originally Posted By: roadrunner
I just tell myself I'd rather get hurt occasionally and have a few close friends, rather than remain unscathed but isolated.

yeah

but safe

there's a lot to be said about safe ... isn't there?

m


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#241887 - 08/01/08 11:44 PM Re: reaching out [Re: MarkK]
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no Mark, there isn't it



Edited by mogigo (08/01/08 11:44 PM)
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#241927 - 08/02/08 10:07 AM Re: reaching out [Re: mogigo]
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actually Mike, there is
and I'll take it, thank you

m


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#241962 - 08/02/08 01:16 PM Re: reaching out [Re: MarkK]
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Gotcha Mark, sorry.

I just felt that I've had that for a lifetime and I just don't really like my life.

I just think that "my" safe has a connection to my unhappiness.

Safe from the pain of relationships is not really living in my opinion. I just can't picture a relationship that is totally safe from what I fear, emotion's.

As long as I can understand where a person is coming from (no intention to cause harm) then the pain is the cost of living. It allows the happiness and joy to make an appearance in my life.

Stay strong
Mike

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#241983 - 08/02/08 04:05 PM Re: reaching out [Re: mogigo]
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i'm sorry everyone. i was stupidly sharing my heart over a situation and i should have kept my big mouth shut. the poem was not written about someone here on MS.org. If nothing else, i need that to be clear.

Originally Posted By: mogigo
I just can't picture a relationship that is totally safe
Mike - we almost agree - except i don't believe there can be a personal relationship that is "safe enough".

not anymore

m


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#241985 - 08/02/08 04:48 PM Re: reaching out [Re: MarkK]
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Clear, thank you, needed it to be

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#241986 - 08/02/08 04:51 PM Re: reaching out [Re: mogigo]
MarkK Offline
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some how i just figured, even though i could have been asked.

the important thing is saying whatever needs said to get it to end.


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