I spent nearly 5 years in individual counseling and 2 years in in-person support groups, over nearly 14 years, between the Fall of 1986 and the Spring of 2000. The progress that I made towards the end of that time, after I had been off of my drug-of-choice, was fairly rapid. During my first 18 months of therapy and my first few months in groups, I thought that I was making good progress that collapsed after my first wife found out, and it proved how much improvement that I needed in coping skills, and how much that I needed to continue with my support group. My CSA therapy was in addition to 3 trips to inpatient substance-abuse treatment and three more extended periods in out-patient groups. In May of 2000 I skook hands with everyone and walked out the door at my last group. Over the last 8 & 1/2 years I have held one job the entire time, and have bought and lived in a nice house for over 6 years now, and 27 months ago I met the woman who is now my 2nd wife. These days we are engaged in making plans for retirement, which is just 10-15 years away. These days our future together is almost entirely unhindered by my past.
Then I was diagnosed with a treatable terminal illness that I most likely got from a blood transfusion in 1987. Now I am on disability and an extended medical leave, and have lots of extra time on my hands. But my life is so much better now. Now I am back in therapy and on here to work on a few remaining issues, and if possible to help out and give others hope.
I've been there and I know how hard it can be. And somehow with a lot of help I finally got out of the personal hell that the first 42 years of my life was. My life is so much more in control these days, and I am so much happier, because my past is mostly ancient history now.
You can get there too, if you just stay with it. You want to discuss any issue feel free to PM me.
"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark