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#241729 - 08/01/08 11:23 AM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: LW1527]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/27/08
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Happy Face
Happy Thoughts
..... Happy load O' Crap.

I agree. While I think that idea if thinking positively can work in some cases, there are just some things that positive thinking falls totally into the category of denial.

I keep getting hit by one mac truck after another lately. How is positive thinking going to help me deal with all that? Truth is, it's not. I gotta deal with each mess as it arrives.

Maybe the best "positive" I can find that has nothing to do with the situations I have to deal with is that here and there I have people I can talk to and vent with and just take a few moments to spew out all the negative thinking!

I remember after I shared with my parents about my past, my father told me that I needed to remember that it was in the past.... Yeah...... ok. The events are, but the pain and anguish are here and now. Some people just try to ignore the troubles and hope they go away.

I prefer to think real rather than positive or negative. Then when things aren't as bad as the bad thinking or aren't all cute and cuddly like the positive thinking, I'm all ready to deal with it head on because the real meets up with what I see.


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#241740 - 08/01/08 12:52 PM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: JustScott]
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Registered: 05/14/08
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Loc: Salt Lake City Ut
YES - REAL is the answer. We lived our life in what seemed unreal. We denied it for years. REAL is the only place we can live now. You are right, no positive or negative, just REAL. Thanks.

Lance


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#241775 - 08/01/08 02:22 PM . [Re: LW1527]
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#241798 - 08/01/08 04:03 PM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: bardo213]
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My mood swings are from DID, but I have them pretty much under control except for today. I do okay without meds so far.


Lance


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#241820 - 08/01/08 05:58 PM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: LW1527]
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Registered: 08/02/05
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Loc: Colorado
Me being real doesn't go over well most of the time, I don't think that I am negative but that's the label.... I just don't have a bright side to what's being done to me. I don't have much control of my life either, actually I have very little and I am not able to gain any ground.

That's where I get the "you're not doing enough" kind of stuff, or the "it's your choice to allow your life not to change".

Things with me have nothing to do with my efforts, I just simply don't get relief no matter what I do and I have done everything, multiple times. Nothing stops THEM from doing all the horrible stuff they want to do to me.

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The statistics? 1 in 4, 1 in 6?
...then there's me the imaginary number

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#241879 - 08/01/08 10:39 PM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: Tinman]
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Originally Posted By: Tinman
Positive thinking in itself does nothing.



Bullshit.

Positive thinking has kept me going.


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#241970 - 08/02/08 02:08 PM . [Re: Dude.]
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#242031 - 08/02/08 09:38 PM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: LW1527]
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I don't believe in positive thinking. I believe in logical thinking.

Fact: my love life is miserable and I'm as confused as shit. Do I think I'm likely to bump into my soul mate tomorrow on the way to the train? No. Do I think I'll be alone forever? No. I've changed so much and have improved in so many other realms.

I try to get upset as little as possible. I also try to never get my hopes up. I've been disappointed too many times. I guess the key word is "analyze." Nothing is either as bad, or as good as it seems if you fully understand it.

I'm not saying it's the right way. But it works best for me.


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#242063 - 08/03/08 12:37 AM Re: the hurt of "positive thinking" [Re: Bewlayb1]
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THEM are my tormentors, it's about what's being done to me now that's not understood. No I don't carry fault in it either. What can make me happy when I'm constantly getting tortured? I can't look passed it, I can't think happy thoughts about it, I can't ignore any of what THEY do to my body.

But to so many it's as easy as seeing some brightside. What happens when that brightside don't exist for someone as in with me? If I just think positive, somehow it's supposed to all get better or go away? That sure didn't work when I was little. The now is worse than then. There is nothing good about it.

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#242166 - 08/03/08 07:22 PM . [Re: usmc97]
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