Thanks for finding that Rob. That is great advice to anyone contemplating disclosure. Here is another one: What happens if A-B-C, etc. happen, and how will you handle it if it does??? Where will you turn for help and support? What are the risks and are they worth taking. What is the worst case scenario? What happens then?
Larry was talking about the risks of disclosure today and he said that that information is something that you own. You need to be very careful over who you share it with, and Mic Hunter says that it is better to wait until the final recovery stage to disclose in most cases. He lays out his reasons why disclosure is risky in his book ABUSED BOYS.
Sorry to hear of your problems with disclosure too, Dude. Feel free to call on me anytime that you want to talk. I too had a really rough time of it when my first wife found out, and like Rob, I have had a number of friends that I never have seen again since told them back in the 1980s. After my first wife left me I went on a 7-year bender where I just didn't care, that almost killed me a dozen times.
There are people on here that do care about each other, especially when one of us is hurting.
"We stay here, we die here. We've got to keep moving". Trucker Mark